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She knows why you filed. You have nothing to say to her.
Agreed - Not a word if she texts. Silence is much stronger then some text reply. Stay quiet and keep whistling while you work.

Then when she tries to engage you, if its not about kids or the D - just walk away. Dont give her the satisfaction of engaging. When you engage in Bullsh1t she will take it as you still caring. You Dont care anymore and therefore have no reason to speak to her.

Plus less conflict could help get it done faster.

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As I am wont to say to every betrayed spouse, revenge is a dish best served cold. By all means, blow up their worlds. When they standing among the devastation, wondering what the hell they did to deserve this? You can answer; "You both chose to urinate on me, this is how I return the favor"
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It most definitely is. I'm done being the passive door mat, they say hell hath no fury like a women scorned? Bull****, wait till they get look at me.
The best way to get back at someone who wants all the attention is to ghost not get mad an give them more attention. Treat her like she is dead.
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He was married and the fall-out was that the wife, who was in intense therapy because of the cruel almost sadomasochistic lying and manipulation felt empowered to then end the marriage. She tried to commit suicide twice after 'finding out' but being called crazy.

He lost a job that he went to maybe twice a week. This employer presumably found a better employee.
Indeed @eric1 - may I also enquire about the OM's best friend's wife? The one that you said you "catfished" to get useful information from. I take it that she too was a despicable human being and deserved the humiliation of being used in this manner by you and your friend?

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The truth may be painful but the only thing more painful is living a lie. The greatest disinfectant is sunlight.
I do agree with you in this particular view.
Ah - I must have misread your earlier post. I had thought that for you, this was all about revenge and that you and your friend were simply revelling in the damage that you had done to the OM. Now I understand that this is actually a moral imperative for you - forgive me. (I suspect that you and I will always differ hugely regarding the question of ends and means, though.)

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I see a lot of anger, and at this point that is a good thing.

But do not let revenge on them consume you. That is just as destructive to you as her cheating is to your marriage.

The best revenge is indifference. Where you care nothing about what she is doing, how she is doing, where she is doing it or even who she is doing it with.
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Hey how about throwing a party for your bad ass friends at your place. Yes no need to be angry. It only harm the self and may give adversaries some satisfaction
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Indeed @eric1 - may I also enquire about the OM's best friend's wife? The one that you said you "catfished" to get useful information from. I take it that she too was a despicable human being and deserved the humiliation of being used in this manner by you and your friend?



I do agree with you in this particular view.
Ah - I must have misread your earlier post. I had thought that for you, this was all about revenge and that you and your friend were simply revelling in the damage that you had done to the OM. Now I understand that this is actually a moral imperative for you - forgive me. (I suspect that you and I will always differ hugely regarding the question of ends and means, though.)


OM's best friends wife was in on the affair and deception. I didn't lose a wink of sleep leveraging that idiot.

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DID IT!!!!!!!
Just left my Lawyers office and filed for Divorce, she will be served in the morning. Let me tell you, it is liberating and sickening all at the same time.

I saw this on here somewhere (not sure who to credit but it's not mine) and it is exactly what i am going to say to her when she calls up screaming/crying/whatever, actually i will text it as i am no longer taking her calls as of 2 days ago.

"I filed for Divorce because it is what needs to be happen, especially given your lack of remorse and continued infidelity.
I don't want you back, and i don't care whether you are angry, content, happy, sad or whatever about it."

this is some mine

"why would i want to prolong a divorce from someone who has zero respect for me and has no love for me. I want out as soon as humanly possible and this is how i am doing it."

another i found

"The bottom line is you showed me who you really are, and i believe you."

On a side note I made to appear has happy as i could this morning, whistling while getting dressed and all the way to my car. She was unhappy about it and yelled out the window that i was being a child.
I think i am going to love the 180.
Wait....

You filed today and having her served tomorrow?

Unless you own a Tardis and can speed up time, ain't no way you could have arranged that so quickly. Most of the time we have BSs here who pull the trigger in the divorce petition and have to wait a good two weeks or so before it is ever served.
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Wait....

You filed today and having her served tomorrow?

Unless you own a Tardis and can speed up time, ain't no way you could have arranged that so quickly. Most of the time we have BSs here who pull the trigger in the divorce petition and have to wait a good two weeks or so before it is ever served.
Nice catch. I'd like to see this one explained.
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Wait....

You filed today and having her served tomorrow?

Unless you own a Tardis and can speed up time, ain't no way you could have arranged that so quickly. Most of the time we have BSs here who pull the trigger in the divorce petition and have to wait a good two weeks or so before it is ever served.
In my county most are served papers with a couple of days.


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I signed them today, they will be filed with the court at 9am and the process server will be at my house by 12noon
I cant ****ing wait
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Thats what you get with a $10k retainer
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And then on thusday while she is trying to get her **** together, i'm takinga few days for me. Either in Atlantic City or the Florida Keys
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I couldve signed filed and not had her served until i wanted, up to 120 days. F that, tomorrow. She has no idea and im going to love every minute
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One thing i learned is that in NYS once the summons is filed with the court, financially we are legally seperated
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