Re: lingering questions in my mind
I'm a big believer that when we marry the first time, it's often with the wrong person. We're not mature enough, we haven't experienced enough, we think with our other brain...IMO the only benefit out of those marriages are the wonderful kids. And once we are free of that toxic, caustic marriage, we are now ready to go out and experience REAL life the RIGHT way and meet BETTER people. You're now smarter, better off, wiser, and you'll have learned how to spot users and selfish people and keep them at bay.
So look forward to your new future. You're gonna be fine. Be the best dad you can be, let them see ONE parent with dignity, grace, and integrity, so that they can grow up to emulate YOU, not her.
You'll be fine. Get the divorce finalized.