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Re: How an affair can save your marriage?! Really!?
People who have affairs often do so because there is something lacking within them, and they are looking to fill that void by cheating. Their marriage or spouse won't fill that void, either. They have to figure out what that void is, because no one can ''make'' you happy, you have to find it within. I think that is one of the biggest reasons people cheat, to find ''happiness.'' We read a lot of those stories on here where a BS says that their WS tells them ''I wasn't happy,'' and that should suffice for a reason to cheat?
I think that cheating might be a wake up call to the cheater to figure out how to fix their own character, and fill a void that maybe they didn't know existed before the affair. That could be why marriages end up better than before the affair, if there is reconciliation, because now the WS has healed and can bring more to the relationship.
Sometimes, you fall in love with the most unexpected person, at the most unexpected time. ~ Unknown