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I have caught every boss I had, cheating. I kept my mouth shut even though I knew both spouses of the cheaters. I called it job security.

Many prefer to drown in a pool of their own morality rather than seek the safety of a different morality.
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I have caught every boss I had, cheating. I kept my mouth shut even though I knew both spouses of the cheaters. I called it job security.
Very good point. Eventually they'll get caught, or something will blow up in their face. Just stay out of it, and know that you have leverage against them. Could do wonders for your career!
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Wow, you work with some high quality people. Lucky you....

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Two things going on:

1), If you caught your boss (or anyone else at work) in an inappropriate but consensual interaction with anyone else, I'd put it in the "mind your own business" category.

2), In this case though she said he offered her a promotion in return for sex. That is a whole different kettle of fish and likely counts as illegal sexual harassment.

Is this a large or small company?
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Talk to a lawyer. I'm serious. Who knows what your boss is capable of. He doesn't sound the most ethical. You probably would be smart to preempt him and go to HR. But first talk to a lawyer.
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she actually admitted to me Frank promised her a promotion if he could have her. Flabbergasted, I asked her why she would she would debase herself like that. Then she said with cunnilingus, the man does all the work.
Wow, why was I not surprised that this post was heading there? LOL!!!!
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Hi. I came here because I caught my boss in a compromising position and I don't know what to do. Here's the background to what happened. I've been working at this company for a few years, and I've got to know my boss "Frank." Frank is married with three children. Now I've noticed Frank has been spending more time with "Julia." Now Julia is a very pretty young woman. So I walked into Frank's office a few days ago, needing help with a minor matter. When I peeked into his office, the first thing I saw was Julia sitting on his desk. When I walked in, I saw Frank's head pop out from between Julia's legs! They were both extremely embarrassed, and Frank told me keep quiet and forget what I saw. I was going to, but then I bumped into Julia the next day, and she actually admitted to me Frank promised her a promotion if he could have her. Flabbergasted, I asked her why she would she would debase herself like that. Then she said with cunnilingus, the man does all the work. I am so confused about what to do now, I need some advice.
Sounds like your wife’s fantasy, cunnilingus at work. Or is that really your fantasy?

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Two things going on:

1), If you caught your boss (or anyone else at work) in an inappropriate but consensual interaction with anyone else, I'd put it in the "mind your own business" category.

2), In this case though she said he offered her a promotion in return for sex. That is a whole different kettle of fish and likely counts as illegal sexual harassment.

Is this a large or small company?
Actually, when I talked to Julia about this, she said she initiated the, um, "relationship." So I don't know if sexual harassment rules apply here.

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Ask you boss for a promotion. Now is the best time.
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Ask you boss for a promotion. Now is the best time.
Really? But what if Frank asks doubleg to do a Julia on him to get that promotion?

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Don't do anything, Don't tell your wife, friends anybody...unless you want to be fired. I'd just start looking for another job. A guy like that is definitely not going to be fair to you.

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At least what I work it would certainly be strongly against company policy an maybe illegal. The affair isn't illegal, but trading promotions for sex probably is. It puts pressure on other women to engage in sexual activity, and puts men like you at a disadvantage in the company.

That said, probably the best response is to do nothing, but its not clear.



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Actually, when I talked to Julia about this, she said she initiated the, um, "relationship." So I don't know if sexual harassment rules apply here.
Doesn't matter if she initiated it. A "quid pro quo" arrangement is the most severe variety of sexual harassment. Your boss is a tremendous legal liability to your company.

You should check your employee manual. You likely have an obligation to report it if you observed it or know about it.
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