I know my wife better than any of you. I'm sorry I came here. The website that led me here was much more helpful. I am not burying my head in the sand and I admit it is too early to call it a success story, that is why it said *so far*. I am reading and we are doing all of the things every.single.site says to do in recovering from an emotional affair. I know we're only in the onset of this thing and that we have a long road ahead. This site is full of negative jaded people, I can see why people who come here for help have such a low success rate at reconciliation. I'm done posting here. You all latch onto one thing and preach like you know, how many possible successes did you all destroy just by being so negative when you really know very little about *my* situation. I'm not blindly believing, I'm trying to move forward. We're on the right path and every one of you so far seem hell bent on knocking us off that path rather than being constructive. I should have known better than to put *any* faith in an internet forum. I got a lot of help from husband help haven and when he linked this forum I thought maybe it was actually constructive.
Utterly worthless. Should change the name of this site to talkaboutdivorce.com
I say this to you just as compassionately as I possibly can...
I'm not calling your wife a *****, or you an idiot, or any of that.
What I AM doing is attempting to relate this nearly universal truth to you...
Emotional affair + physical proximity to AP = physical
I'm so sorry that you're going through this, but it's going to be so much more difficult for you -- and so much more prolonged -- if you continue to do it with blinders on.
Your wife is lying to you.
She had sex with OM.
She's no more "unique" or "special" than any other wayward.
You might know her better than me, or anyone else here, but you're still wrong about her.
You're only 4 days in. You're still awash in a sea of grief, despair, fear, pain, and, unfortunately, trickle-truth.
Every wayward lies, at least in the beginning.
Strap in, because the waters are going to get rougher before they get better.
ETA: It's fine if you want to reconcile, but do it armed with the truth.