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post #46 of 50 (permalink) Old 04-13-2017, 02:59 AM
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There are none so blind...


“The time's gone by for sentiment and all that foolery. Mercy's all very well but after all it's justice that clinches the bargain.”


“The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing.”
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Hopefully you come back. Your not hearing what you wanted to hear and it is difficult sometimes.

The message you are receiving here is to not make any decision yet. Be it R or D. You, admittedly, dont know the whole story.

Sex or not is all speculation and there are only 2 people who know for sure. The problem is you have to assume she lies when answers. Shes already done it with trickle truthing you. If you dont know the actual truth (outside of her words) you do not know what you are forgiving in the case of R.

One way to get the actual truth is to follow the advise of the poster that mentioned a poly graph. Not so much for the poly itself but for the WW reaction. Anything other then an astounding "YES - id love to to prove to you my sweet husband that nothing happend" is guilt. Outright refusal is admittance.

People here, though harsh with words, are looking out for your best interest which right now is to get the truth before you make a decision.
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LIL Doc,

DO not rugsweep this...if you do come back most of us are here to help, ask her if she is willing to take a polygraph to validate her claims? i suspect there is more to the story and you will have to deal with it one way or another...i get you love your wife...but she did not love you for a some time so now is the time to find out. you can stay away from here but you can't stay away from your problem...good luck
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First, you have to realize this: your story is not unique. Neither is your wife.

There are many threads here similar to yours. Too many.

In these others the WW will admit to what your W did when caught : kissing, spending time with OM, etc.

Do you watch police shows? The suspect sometimes pleads guilty to a lesser charge ( manslaughter vs homicide ) because the penalty is less.

Your W was caught so she admitted guilt to a lesser 'crime'. We've seen this before. The H is still very upset but somewhat relieved to know the truth. But, it's not the truth.

Axioms of TAM : If she says they kissed, they had sex. If it was only three times, it was twenty. Oral, of course. No protection. Ad nauseam.

And, I think you know this in your gut.

“The time's gone by for sentiment and all that foolery. Mercy's all very well but after all it's justice that clinches the bargain.”


“The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing.”
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