Ill try to do that. But I am always attentive to him. I basically cater to his every need when I can. I ask him about his day and for the details but he has been short with me and sounds annoyed when I ask him for more. To be honest this makes me want to pull back a bit a leave him alone.
Thanks for your messages and your honesty.
These sorts of experiences are extremely challenging (as you can testify), primarily because of the uncertainty and that's the part that often causes the most pain.
Guys are interesting creatures, even when they have a beautiful partner...
I've seen it time and time again. A guy is married, yet he is still 'hooked' to the emotions that he feels when in the company of another woman. It doesn't necessarily mean that he wants to cheat on them, it's primarily the emotion that he's hooked to.
The other thing that can be at play here is that he hasn't quite matured and evolved to the point where he stops craving this sort of attention. Lots of guys love it. Nothing makes a man light up than seeing a woman happy towards him and if this woman is doing this regularly through her bubbly nature, then he's going to enjoy her company.
Yes, he does need to evolve and mature - no doubt about that. What I mean by that is that he needs to get to a place where he recognises that the primary source of these emotions and feelings are through your relationship and that is the greatest source of love, joy and happiness in his life. It's great work provides some of that but it's only temporary - yours is permanent.
My personal opinion is different to others but one that i've seen work so many times - shape him through your love. There are two types of motivation that you can move forward with here - either fear or love. Fear simply never works in life in the long run. In this instance, when you are constantly on the lookout, fearful and afraid, that will naturally cause you to make different decisions and act in ways that wont necessarily be for the greater good of the relationship. When you are motivated by love, you engage the most powerful transformational force in life.
Am I saying don't keep a lookout? Am I saying don't keep an eye out for odd behaviour? Absolutely not. It's paramount that you set yourself standards on how you wish to be treated but the most important thing in my opinion is to try and shape him with your love and create an environment at home that far exceeds anything that he gets at work. If you do that again and again and again, then he is going to be singing from the rooftops about you. If you stay on edge all the time, and reacting from that emotional state, then it will only create more distance and hurt.
In the end, if he is not living up to this standards despite all the love that you continuously serve him with, then at the point, you can make a decision on whether he is the right man for you.
As one of the other posters stated, gather evidence but kill the man with love. Find ways to meet his needs at levels that he's never had before and you will have an absolute raving fan of a partner.
I hope that all makes sense.
Any questions, please let me know.