And how is the OP responsible for this? Whether or not she needs relaxation is irrelevant, she stomped on his heart she doesn't deserve anything, especially from OP. So you're suggesting the OP treat her to a spa treatment? Ridiculous.
And besides, spending extra time on her back she should be rested.
Come now. You must at least be aware that your last sentence, at least, was soaked with scorn. People who commit affairs often do have a lot of conflicting and difficult-to-bear emotions, particularly after D-day. No, she is likely not rested at all. She's probably terrified at the upheaval of her life, and riddled with guilt because she knows she caused this upheaval.
You say, "She stomped on his heart; she doesn't deserve anything." It might be true that the original poster decides that she doesn't deserve anything from him. That is his choice and his alone to make. But people, all
people, even people who stomp on other people's hearts
, deserve happiness in some form or fashion. Even if the OP doesn't want to make her happy anymore, which is his right, it is also her right to make herself happy- not by having more affairs and hurting others, mind you, but by being kind to herself and to others, and treating herself gently. That involves such self-caring activities as spa trips.
I have serious trouble treating myself with any compassion or gentleness, and I cannot begin to recount the myriad problems this lack of self-love has directly caused in my life and the lives of those around me. I have also been on the receiving end of abuse from others. Some of them were merely misguided; most were outright cruel. I won't lie when I tell you that I often desire to see the worst of my abusers suffer, but I would never, ever
act upon this desire and tell them that they don't deserve basic humanity, even with what they did to me. Perhaps if some of my abusers loved themselves, they'd not have abused me.
Self-love is vital. Rest is vital. Care is vital to the human psyche and no one
, no matter how cruel, abusive, monstrous, or downright evil they are, should have these basic human rights denied to them, not only for themselves, but for the health of their victims.
Forgive me if this was a bit of a threadjack, but I've noticed on CWI, the humanity of offenders cannot be over-emphasized.