Re: Quit Affair Cold Turkey 7 Days Ago
Hubs and I have been seeing a counselor for years. He cheated first. In some ways, he blames himself for my affair. I don't consider my affair a result of his affair. However, I do think I lost respect and love for him after his affair. Now, I've lost respect and love for myself.
We are doing what most couples do after finding out about an affair... crying, screaming, storming out on each other, threatening, making-up, apologizing. wash, rinse, repeat.
Problems? I'm boring, critical, and have anxiety issues. He's an over-achiever and likes to be told how great he is. Neither of us does a very good job of building each other up. We've called a truce. Moving forward, with the blessing of our therapist.
BTW, I don't consider cognitive behavioral therapy to be rug-sweeping. Distraction can most definitely be a positive coping strategy for individuals suffering with anxiety and OCD tendencies. Though, I can see how someone unfamiliar with the practice could potentially view it as rug-sweeping.