Re: What Are The Long Term Effects Of An Affair?
Folks, don't get yourselves worked up over my post. To arrive at such firm conclusions in an accurate manner you would need for me to flesh out my situation. Be aware that initially I thought my ex was a WAW and our divorce happened immediately. As our divorce was finalized I learned of the infidelity and at that point a switch flipped inside of me where I knew my dignity needed to be rescued. This is when I abandoned all hope or desire of saving the relationship and welcomed the divorce.
In spite of desiring a divorce from a cheater, I still felt intense agony for a long time but knew I was better off without her. Now, many years later I am so glad I'm rid of her and I'm certain it was a Godsend to me. My general stance is some adulterous marriages are worth being saved, but only when the truest repentance is present. I feel the majority of infidelities should be rewarded with an immediate and non negotiable divorce.
Because of my experience I can tell you that if my current wife cheated on me I would respond with an instant divorce and I would move on much easier than I did last time. I acknowledge that everyone is different and it's probably not wise to form a rigid protocol that applies the same to everyone for every circumstance. YMMV