Re: and she's going to leave him ?
For starters, Dear Abby to fix your marriage...lol
This is a 50/50 thought/opinion.
Her Side: Regardless what is done, is done. She can't take it back or hit the rewind button. But to be belittled, or talked down to for months, ohhhh Nooo. Yes, she hurt him and destroyed him emotionally. But why should she constantly fault herself. Yes, she is to blame and has to take the consequences for her infidelity. either it is fixable or broken, to repair a marriage takes TWO, but to taking whatever punishment he throws or threatens her months after the fact, NO WAY. She had a affair and yes she deserves to be questioned, but not punished day after day. If she had a affair, then either seek a solution or dissolution. The world isn't perfect, 99% of mistakes or problems are correctable. Yes, she screwed up, not to be punished like a dog. Especially if he is doing it in front of the children or getting off on making her feel worthless. She needs to suck it up, stop the pity pool, stop playing the victim, like i said marriage takes TWO, whether it be to correct the situation and discuss it and talk about it like two married adults or act like two middle school kids playing the " I did this and he did that card." If you can't talk and work as a team then DIVORCE.
His Side: Catching the wife's affair has changed the way he looks, feels, and touches her any longer. She lied, hid, broke the bond, she gave what was intimate in their marriage and gave it to another with NO remorse until she got caught. The Affair has emotionally and physically destroyed him as a man, husband, best friend. The damage of a affair to the innocent spouse does not repair itself over night, it might be months or years, but to constantly throw it up and bash her is so CHILDISH, he needs to grow up, think about pro's and con's of the situation. Either seek to save the marriage or seek to let it go. But it takes TWO....If he loved her, he would not keep her down, or punish her like a dog. He would seek to fix and correct his wife and marriage.