Re: What do you consider infidelity?
With my current partner, I'm still trying to figure this one out. He's my first kinky relationship (finally!), so I'm still trying to figure out what my boundaries are--and it's also his first real kinky relationship, too. I want monogamy, and we are monogamous right now. I don't know if I will ever be OK with being non-monogamous, but in our kinky world, it's harder to define than it is in vanilla-land. He's said that he's OK with me sleeping with other men, in fact he thinks it's really hot... but I'm not interested in sleeping with other men. And I'm definitely not ok with him sleeping with another woman, and he's not interested in finding another woman to sleep with right now. But he says he might want to try swinging, and I don't know if I would be ok with that. I'm definitely not interested in it right now.
I would definitely be upset if he was sexting another woman. That would be infidelity for me. But we go to kinky events... and if he wants to touch another woman's breasts, I'll usually bo ok with it. If I said NO, he wouldn't, and he knows that there's no touching anywhere else and no kissing, that I'm not ok with. And NO ONE is allowed to touch him (intimately). I've told him, "I will cut a ***** if she touches my man."
~Happily un-married since December 9, 2013~