Originally Posted by Emerging Buddhist View Post
To focus on thinking straight for your best interest, place yourself in a position of non-judgemental strength... what is happening in your life is not good or bad, fair or unfair. It just is. What acceptance helps us do is learn to deal with life-changing obstacles like abandonment, betrayal, or loss. This may seem silly to many, but it is far from passive, it's a training ground for clarity and action
I realize the above quote is only a section of your kind, well meant post.
But, with regards to what I bolded, how can what is happening to OP be neither bad or good, just or unjust.
I don't understand Buddhism [obviously], so I'm assuming [probably in error??] that these are Buddhist teachings; and it is
But just from a gut-level, empirical view of life; I think some things *are* bad, good, just or unjust.
It is bad and unjust that OP's husband threw her out of her house. It is not neutral. Right?
I'm not starting an argument. I loved the benevolence I sensed in your post. I just don't see how there can be an absence of moral value in such a situation.
Sorry, I don't mean to threadjack by getting offtrack on philosophical issues.
You are saying that you still love your husband; and folks here are asking how you can still love someone who would treat you so egregiously bad.
Do you mean you are still physically in love with him? Like, still find him handsome, it's thrilling when he touches you?
If so, it's really important to have as little-to-no in person contact with him as possible.
Hormones and physical attraction make it very difficult to think clearly and logically.
And, I am truly sorry for you if you do still love your husband on a physical level. It's awful that he still has that hold over you. That would give him too much power.
Hope you're doing well; I mean as well as can be expected under the circumstances----sleeping, eating regularly, and so forth.