Well, it's been five years since I caught my husband making out with another woman in her car. 7 years since my infidelity. We're doing well, considering. Things not perfect. He occasionally does bonehead things. I have made a few decisions myself and I am anxious to carry those out to fruition.
We have decided to sell the large house we've lived in for 20 years that we raised our children and build a smaller one. We are just starting the process on that and are cleaning out our basement. I found my wedding dress and he found all his vinyl albums!
I still think about what happened every day but there are longer periods of time between my thoughts. He still thinks of it as well. We have a really good life together and those good things outweigh the bad. It will never be as it was but it is very good most of the time.
I can handle things (mainly living here) better than I used to. Trust grows more every year - exponentially - but will never be 100%.