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You are right. I will edit that post. If you don't mind please do the same for me.Easy man... he's not clueless, it's just really hard when kids are involved. Yeah he needs to get rid of her, but they'll end up losing a parent either way.
You don't have an anger problem.If anything you let your partner get away with too much for too long.And seriously, she had your daughter sleep with the two of them?Come on man.You should be angry.She sees my reaction to the ****ty things she does as an anger problem. Wants me to get help and herself help. I can't stand watching the kids cry. What the **** do I do?
Myrcenary, the serial cheating you describe -- and her neglect of your three children -- is a warning sign for strong Narcissistic Personality Disorder) and, to a lesser extent, Histrionic PD. If she really does exhibit strong NPD traits, it likely means she is incapable of truly loving anyone. Instead, she simply sees them as extensions of herself, as long as they continue to support her false image of herself.How dare she lie and more importantly, how dare she do this with our daughter!!
Of course, she is mistaken. You would have a serious problem if you did not experience intense anger after the way she has abused you. Thank goodness you are feeling very angry.She sees my reaction to the ****ty things she does as an anger problem.
You leave her. Moreover, it would be prudent to see a psychologist -- for a visit or two all by yourself -- to obtain a candid professional opinion on what it is you and your three young children are dealing with. Because mental disorders can be inherited, it would be useful to know what -- if any -- disorders your exW is exhibiting and to know what the risk is to your kids of inheriting a predisposition to those disorders. I say "disorders" in plural because, if your exW exhibits one mental disorder she likely has one or two others as well.What the **** do I do?
You raise some very eye opening points, and I thank you for the well constructed advice. I honestly believe she loves her children, and sometimes me despite her outrageous behavior. She has shown these signs on and off throughout the years. I'm pretty sure she has some form of bipolar disorder. I can even pin point it down to the change of seasons. She's pretty down and mellow during the Autumn and Winter, but as soon as Spring is around the corner she goes nuts for lack of better words. She seems to abandon everything that matters to her, cold as ice. Then she snaps back to a somewhat normal loving human being later in the Summer. I've brought my concerns up with her in the past but she always shrugs it off more or less. It's like she realizes she has a problem but refuses to diagnose much less treat. So as of now, she has her own place and I'm just going to focus on the kids' well being. We're trying to do it without court, but if she gives me any reason to, we'll be there. I promise that.Farsidejunky, thanks for the call out.
Myrcenary, the serial cheating you describe -- and her neglect of your three children -- is a warning sign for strong Narcissistic Personality Disorder) and, to a lesser extent, Histrionic PD. If she really does exhibit strong NPD traits, it likely means she is incapable of truly loving anyone. Instead, she simply sees them as extensions of herself, as long as they continue to support her false image of herself.
I therefore ask whether you have any reasons to believe that your W ever truly loved you and your children? If you decide that she truly does love you and your children, the serial cheating is a warning sign for Bipolar-1 Disorder, not NPD.
Of course, she is mistaken. You would have a serious problem if you did not experience intense anger after the way she has abused you. Thank goodness you are feeling very angry.
You leave her. Moreover, it would be prudent to see a psychologist -- for a visit or two all by yourself -- to obtain a candid professional opinion on what it is you and your three young children are dealing with. Because mental disorders can be inherited, it would be useful to know what -- if any -- disorders your exW is exhibiting and to know what the risk is to your kids of inheriting a predisposition to those disorders. I say "disorders" in plural because, if your exW exhibits one mental disorder she likely has one or two others as well.
Sounds fancy......she is a Sperme Bateau. A vessel for some man's pleasure.
It didn't work twice if you had reading comprehension skills. Second, go piss yourself.Have another kid with her. That will bring her back to you. It worked twice before.
Have you written out a timeline of everything that's happened since you met her? Do that. In a bound notebook (no adding pages). Less on the backside but every single detail now regarding your children. It may help you get custody.[/Q
I have enough to write a book, I take daily notes. It's an every day thing, I could darn near make a new post on the crazy things she does and says to the kids and me. I honestly have no idea why I stuck with her for so long, I just wanted a normal family. Truth is, it's simply not possible with her. I've wasted 15 years of my life on her, though of course my children are of no regrets. But now that the dust has settled, I find peace. Everything is so normal, and everybody around me sees how things should be regarding the children. She can't be trusted to bring those little ones up to be decent people. I don't believe I should cut her out completely, but she is not capable of having custody of any sort. Bottom line is she needs to diagnose and treat for her own sake and our children.
If your LOL "wife" is willing to bang a clown named "porkchop", I can GUARANTEE you are WAY better off without her.My kids tell me she has a boyfriend. She won't tell me who it is. Kids tell me who it is. Boyfriend stayed the night twice with kids there, less than a month after moving out. Guess who the boyfriend is?
Porkchop