Just discovered possible EA after Wife said she wants to separate...

chapparal · 02-11-2012, 06:32 AM

So she is saying she is going to come and take them away from you? Keep your video and VAR handy, Don't let her in. Call the police if she comes.

happyman64 · 02-11-2012, 07:09 AM

bmichael,

I know your situation sucks. Your wife is acting crazy.

Serving her for full custody is the right thing to do. What the hell did she expect.

She abandons you.

She abandons the kids.

She abandons the marriage.

She moves out.

She is living the single life.

She has one or two OM and a girlfriend that are supporting her behavior.

You had to go to the FBI to protect yourself.

And sadly you could show her all of these points and she would not feel bad or remorseful for any of her actions.

Time to not let her in the house. Secure your kids and hang on with both hands.

It will get worse before it gets better but you are doing the right thing protecting your children.

Take care of yourself as best you can. What a selfish woman she has become.

You are doing the right thing and she left you no choice. Of course waywards never see it that way.

Initfortheduration · 02-11-2012, 07:15 AM

Take the day off, I am sure your boss would understand why. Then wait and have your VAR ready. Let her go crazy, taping the whole thing. It will be more evidence of her imbalanced mental state.

Shaggy · 02-11-2012, 08:14 AM

Do not hesitate to call the police if she comes over and acts nasty. Even if it's just swearing etc, if she is really angry call the cops.

Make sure you have a VAR on you at all times. ALL times.

Eli-Zor · 02-11-2012, 08:17 AM

Indeed get the VAR do not underestimate a wayward they will lie.
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Mrs. T · 02-11-2012, 08:34 AM

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Originally Posted by bmichael

Wow... she got served and she's going ballistic! I've never seen her going this crazy with threats and demands.

Says she's coming over tomorrow and is going to take the kids from the house while I'm at work... this is nuts!

Amazing turnaround on her part. She turned her back on her kids and walked away and now all of a sudden they have become important to her again, or is the real issue the fact that you are fighting for them and she can't bear to have you win the fight...

chapparal · 02-11-2012, 09:18 AM

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Originally Posted by bmichael

There isn't a temporary custody order. The state of NC will only let you file one if there's an immediate danger to the lives of the children. I tried.

She was served and notifed that I was pursuing full primary custody and she's lost her mind over it.

Reality bites.

F-102 · 02-11-2012, 09:28 AM

She probably had the epiphany of: "Hey...if I get custody of the kids, I will get MORE MONEY out of this jackass who dared to stand in the way of my true happiness!"

jnj express · 02-11-2012, 10:17 AM

Couple of things---you do know that half of your wife's retirement is yours---the retirement is community property

Also you may be stuck for half of her student loan payback, also due to community property

Also along with alienation of affection, file suit for criminal conversation---that tort is also still on the books in N C

You should also report, and give the evidence to the state medical boards where these doctors, who screwed up your mge., have their practice.

Eli-Zor · 02-11-2012, 10:18 AM

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Originally Posted by jnj express

Couple of things---you do know that half of your wife's retirement is yours---the retirement is community property

Also you may be stuck for half of her student loan payback, also due to community property

Also along with alienation of affection, file suit for criminal conversation---that tort is also still on the books in N C

You should also report, and give the evidence to the state medical boards where these doctors, who screwed up your mge., have their practice.

Good advice all round .
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morituri · 02-11-2012, 10:18 AM

Isn't North Carolina a Fault and "Alienation of Affection" state? What has your attorney said regarding bringing up charges of adultery and the kind of proof needed to make them stick?

bmichael · 02-11-2012, 01:15 PM

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Isn't North Carolina a Fault and "Alienation of Affection" state? What has your attorney said regarding bringing up charges of adultery and the kind of proof needed to make them stick?

We're pursuing the alienation of affections against both doctors for their interference. One of them supplied her with the funds to move into her apartment.

bmichael · 02-11-2012, 07:47 PM

A shining example of how far my wife has fallen...

I'm cleaning up her former desk at the house, tossing out all the garbage she's let build up. Looking under the desk, tossing away papers and I find her father's bracelet.

Her father died in 07 from liver cancer and it affected her very badly. Before he passed, he wrote "remember the good times..." on a slip of paper and she always carried it around with her. After he died, she took the slip of paper and had the words engraved, in his handwriting, onto the bracelet which I just found.

Complexity · 02-11-2012, 08:19 PM

It always struck me how cheating spouses who are stuck in the fog tend to resemble junkies. Anything and everything they ever cared about means nothing to them.

chapparal · 02-11-2012, 08:30 PM

She's a student, send her some of the research on the chemical, addictive nature of drug addiction and an affair. One of the reasons you want controlling custody.

BTW hasn't she been in school an awfully long time?

Is your wife in her mid thirties?