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Old 02-11-2012, 08:49 PM   #286 (permalink)
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She's a student, send her some of the research on the chemical, addictive nature of drug addiction and an affair. One of the reasons you want controlling custody.

BTW hasn't she been in school an awfully long time?

Is your wife in her mid thirties?
I've thought about sending her a bunch of research material like that but figured in the state she's in she'd cast it aside like she has everything else.

My wife is 33. She went back to school 5 years ago and got her bachleors. She's in a PA program now.
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Send her the bracelet. Not the reference material.

The bracelet sends a message. She knows her father would be disappointed by her actions. Probably why it was on the floor.

Sadly, her whole life has lost any meaning.

Stay strong and take care of your family BMichael. I hope your attorney kicks all their butts.
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Send her the bracelet. Not the reference material.

The bracelet sends a message. She knows her father would be disappointed by her actions. Probably why it was on the floor.

Sadly, her whole life has lost any meaning.

Stay strong and take care of your family BMichael. I hope your attorney kicks all their butts.


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Old 02-11-2012, 09:49 PM   #289 (permalink)
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Send her the bracelet. Not the reference material.

The bracelet sends a message. She knows her father would be disappointed by her actions. Probably why it was on the floor.

Sadly, her whole life has lost any meaning.

Stay strong and take care of your family BMichael. I hope your attorney kicks all their butts.
And make sure she knows that you found it discarded on the floor like it meant nothing.
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Old 02-11-2012, 09:52 PM   #290 (permalink)
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Tuesday is the 5 year anniversary of her father's death. It'd be a good day for her to get it.
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Tuesday is the 5 year anniversary of her father's death. It'd be a good day for her to get it.
Send her a short note.

"I found this discarded on the floor the other day while cleaning up the house. I thought you might like to have this since I realize that this may be an emotional time for you."

Don't tell her what the emotional time is though. See if she can figure it out by herself. If she doesn't then you know how far gone in the fog she really is.
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Old 02-12-2012, 07:39 AM   #292 (permalink)
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I think it would be even more moving, if he just sent the engraving on a note with the bracelet. Her fathers words should be enough, that way she can't say he was trying to manipulate her with his words. If she says anything, like why would you send it to me? Tell her that it seemed to mean a lot to her at the time. Now is the time for a direct shot to the conscience. Tell her you found it disgarded, next to her marriage vows and everything else she once found important.
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Old 02-14-2012, 07:20 AM   #293 (permalink)
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Got more hate mail yesterday. This time from my wife's best friend. It's amazing the nasty comments that come out when something like this happens. To think, I'm her daugther's godfather, too.
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Got more hate mail yesterday. This time from my wife's best friend. It's amazing the nasty comments that come out when something like this happens. To think, I'm her daugther's godfather, too.
Does she know about your wife's affairs? Or does she know and condone them?

I expect to lose alot of friends now that I have kicked my wife out and filing for D.

Don't sweat it.... Now you know she was never really your friend.
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Does she know about your wife's affairs? Or does she know and condone them?

I expect to lose alot of friends now that I have kicked my wife out and filing for D.

Don't sweat it.... Now you know she was never really your friend.
She's one of the ones I exposed the EA too. She's telling me that regardless of that, my marriage was over beforehand because of my actions... trash like that.

I told her to make sure I wasn't her kid's godparent anymore.
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She's one of the ones I exposed the EA too. She's telling me that regardless of that, my marriage was over beforehand because of my actions... trash like that.

I told her to make sure I wasn't her kid's godparent anymore.
Good riddance. Sounds like your wife runs with the Jersey Shore crowd.

Does this hag even acknowledge that you are raising 6 children by yourself? My, you are such a selfish prick!

Nice thing about divorce is it weeds the fairweather friends out of your life. I can't wait to lose some of the friend baggage I have been forced to carry around for my STBXW's sake.
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Don't indulge in the hate speech and drop to their level. Say thank you and don't reply back. Divorces are ugly , you don't need more drama
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Good riddance. Sounds like your wife runs with the Jersey Shore crowd.

Does this hag even acknowledge that you are raising 6 children by yourself? My, you are such a selfish prick!

Nice thing about divorce is it weeds the fairweather friends out of your life. I can't wait to lose some of the friend baggage I have been forced to carry around for my STBXW's sake.
No one in my wife's corner is acknowledging anything I've done for my kids the past five years while my wife's been in school, or the fact that I'm still at the house taking care of them after my wife walked out and got her apartment. I expected as much.

I'm just the bad guy now who's hurting because my wife's leaving and I'm using the kids as revenge for her EA.
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No one in my wife's corner is acknowledging anything I've done for my kids the past five years while my wife's been in school, or the fact that I'm still at the house taking care of them after my wife walked out and got her apartment. I expected as much.

I'm just the bad guy now who's hurting because my wife's leaving and I'm using the kids as revenge for her EA.
Clearly, you are history's second greatest monster (right after the idiot who green-lighted New Coke).

Stay strong and do the right thing by you. Don't stoop to their level. Be the right kind of man and conduct yourself in a way that you can proudly stand behind if your kids find out.
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Now she's asking if the kids can stay overnight with her tonight because today is the anniversary of her father's death... trying to play the guilt card, I guess.
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