Just discovered possible EA after Wife said she wants to separate...

bandit.45 · 02-14-2012, 10:17 AM

Did you send her the bracelet?

bmichael · 02-14-2012, 10:21 AM

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Did you send her the bracelet?

No, I didn't send it. I knew I was going to see her today because of kids and planned to just give it to her or something.

Beowulf · 02-14-2012, 10:31 AM

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She's one of the ones I exposed the EA too. She's telling me that regardless of that, my marriage was over beforehand because of my actions... trash like that.

I told her to make sure I wasn't her kid's godparent anymore.

Is she married? I wonder how her husband would feel if he knew she was condoning your wife's affair?

bmichael · 02-14-2012, 10:33 AM

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Is she married? I wonder how her husband would feel if he knew she was condoning your wife's affair?

Yes, she's married and I know they've had problems as well.

It's not surprising that everyone in my wife's support group has been married multiple times or had relationship problems.

Beowulf · 02-14-2012, 10:37 AM

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Yes, she's married and I know they've had problems as well.

It's not surprising that everyone in my wife's support group has been married multiple times or had relationship problems.

I would nonchalantly let him know of his wife's attitude and that he should keep an eye on her.

Beowulf · 02-14-2012, 10:39 AM

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Now she's asking if the kids can stay overnight with her tonight because today is the anniversary of her father's death... trying to play the guilt card, I guess.

Keep running the 180. You're trying to detach from her, not snap to attention whenever she calls for you.

Edit: Tell her you have a date.

bmichael · 02-14-2012, 10:46 AM

This is her exact email to me:

"I just want to let you know that I don’t have class tomorrow until 10am. I would really appreciate if you would allow the kids to stay the night tonight. Especially with what today represents for them and me with my father’s passing. I won’t push for Thursday night. Thank you and I hope you reconsider."

Extremely different from the venom she spewed at me earlier or the hate her "BFF" slung my way last night.

And still no mention of the bracelet.

bmichael · 02-14-2012, 10:11 PM

Gave her the bracelet. Told her I found it under the desk amongst some trash.

All she had to say was she had been looking for it.

lordmayhem · 02-15-2012, 12:48 AM

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Got more hate mail yesterday. This time from my wife's best friend. It's amazing the nasty comments that come out when something like this happens. To think, I'm her daugther's godfather, too.

That's usually how it goes, the WW/WH usually has at least one Toxic Friend (TF) that enables the affair, not all the time, but a good percentage of the time from the stories seen here. You're the monster that drove her to this.

You know the truth. Go NC with these losers also.

warlock07 · 02-15-2012, 07:44 AM

I would suggest not to turn this into a hate fest. Don't enable her but don't go out of your way to spite her.

chapparal · 02-15-2012, 06:21 PM

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I would suggest not to turn this into a hate fest. Don't enable her but don't go out of your way to spite her.

Exactly, play nice but strong. Reread the 180. All your wife should see is how great you are doing and how you are improving yourself and moving quickly forward with out her. You need to show her you are protecting the family and everyone is going to get along great with or without her. Have you been taking the kids on lots of fun things? School ballgames, hobbies, pizza, swimming, shopping etc.etc.etc. You should be having a good time that she should be envious of.

bmichael · 02-15-2012, 06:35 PM

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Exactly, play nice but strong. Reread the 180. All your wife should see is how great you are doing and how you are improving yourself and moving quickly forward with out her. You need to show her you are protecting the family and everyone is going to get along great with or without her. Have you been taking the kids on lots of fun things? School ballgames, hobbies, pizza, swimming, shopping etc.etc.etc. You should be having a good time that she should be envious of.

Putting plans together now to take them somewhere this weekend.

happyman64 · 02-15-2012, 08:00 PM

Good for you Bmichael.

Have fun with the kids.

Your WW is acting crazy one minute and nice the next.

Do not let her make you crazy in the process!!!

bmichael · 02-16-2012, 09:01 AM

Found out yesterday that my wife plans to shave her head for some event next month to support finding a cure for cancer.

It's a good cause, but it just seems like another desperate attempt to get attention.

bandit.45 · 02-16-2012, 09:20 AM

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Found out yesterday that my wife plans to shave her head for some event next month to support finding a cure for cancer.

It's a good cause, but it just seems like another desperate attempt to get attention.

Too bad you can't have sex with her. I've always wanted to bang a bald woman.
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