Just discovered possible EA after Wife said she wants to separate...

happyman64 · 03-02-2012, 01:54 PM

Talk to your attorney. Run it by him.

Complexity · 03-02-2012, 02:12 PM

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I deflected and switched the subject.

OK good, if she brings it up again you have to firmly reject her "offer". I know what happened the other day between you two must've brought out a lot of emotions but you have to think about your situation very carefully and get out of your own mini fog.

chapparal · 03-02-2012, 02:17 PM

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Originally Posted by bmichael

The drama keeps rolling...

Wife called about our mediation appointment today but then she said something about coming over to the house on Sunday night to watch a TV show that we use to watch together. WTF is going on?!

She can't get enough of that funky stuff.

chapparal · 03-02-2012, 02:28 PM

Be cool,stay calm and see what she 's thinking. Reality really hits some people and they get it. She has a lot on her plate and if what I see from your writing is what she has been seeing she just may be rethinking her posiyion in regard to you and her family.

Prayers for your family.

bmichael · 03-02-2012, 02:59 PM

This in addition to yesterday is just crazy and I don't know what to think about any of it. I wasn't expecting it at all.

Emotional rollercoaster is trying to start up again after I had shut it down.

calif_hope · 03-02-2012, 03:17 PM

Bandit.45 and others - I wish you would cease offering posts in the absolute were legal issues are concerned. Each State is different in how it deals with the issues involved in this and other threads - what you see on TV, what you get from others, and even from personal experiences if your case is a couple of years old your info may not be and most likely isn't valid.

In terms of California, and about 35 other states Bmichael HAS NOT weakened his position in any way. And the others states don't apply the sex after the fact in the absolute.

Let's be careful while being supportive!
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bmichael · 03-02-2012, 03:19 PM

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Originally Posted by calif_hope

Bandit.45 and others - I wish you would cease offering posts in the absolute were legal issues are concerned. Each State is different in how it deals with the issues involved in this and other threads - what you see on TV, what you get from others, and even from personal experiences if your case is a couple of years old your info may not be and most likely isn't valid.

In terms of California, and about 35 other states Bmichael HAS NOT weakened his position in any way. And the others states don't apply the sex after the fact in the absolute.

Let's be careful while being supportive!
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I'm in North Carolina.

Almostrecovered · 03-02-2012, 03:20 PM

well as I stated earlier, just tell the lawyer and he'll tell you what's what

NC is one of the few states that allow for alienation suits

bandit.45 · 03-02-2012, 03:23 PM

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Bandit.45 and others - I wish you would cease offering posts in the absolute were legal issues are concerned. Each State is different in how it deals with the issues involved in this and other threads - what you see on TV, what you get from others, and even from personal experiences if your case is a couple of years old your info may not be and most likely isn't valid.

In terms of California, and about 35 other states Bmichael HAS NOT weakened his position in any way. And the others states don't apply the sex after the fact in the absolute.

Let's be careful while being supportive

Thats why I told him to talk to his lawyer. If I'm wrong, I'll be the first to admit it.

chapparal · 03-02-2012, 03:23 PM

Has the lawyer started the lawsuit yet?

Almostrecovered · 03-02-2012, 03:24 PM

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Originally Posted by chapparal

Has the lawyer started the lawsuit yet?

that's actually a good question because if the OM got notice your wife's sexual advances may be more nefarious than just wanting some sex

bandit.45 · 03-02-2012, 03:24 PM

It was still a boneheaded thing to do.

Keep your pecker in your pants D!

chapparal · 03-02-2012, 03:31 PM

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It was still a boneheaded thing to do.

Keep your pecker in your pants D!

That depends on what his goals are.

If she wants to watch TV, offer to buy the popcorn and beer. A little parley with the enemy to get info. Sometimes you have to go down in a sacrifice move.

bmichael · 03-02-2012, 03:33 PM

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Originally Posted by chapparal

Has the lawyer started the lawsuit yet?

No.

bmichael · 03-02-2012, 03:34 PM

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Originally Posted by chapparal

That depends on what his goals are.

If she wants to watch TV, offer to buy the popcorn and beer. A little parley with the enemy to get info. Sometimes you have to go down in a sacrifice move.

She did willingly give up a lot of details yesterday. A lot of things I didn't know.