Re: Just discovered possible EA after Wife said she wants to separate...
The children make things a whole lot harder for you than would be the case had you had none with her or they were all of adult age. All I can tell you is that there really isn't any way for one member of a marriage to salvage it if the other isn't interested. I sense that you would like this to not be true, but if she fails to come around, you will be moving on, alone just as others have had to do.
I liken my split with my ex to be similar to a person quitting smoking at "other people's" insistence. You may not really want to do it, but eventually you no longer miss them once you accomplish it.