Re: Just discovered possible EA after Wife said she wants to separate...
I didn't get a chance to do anything with a VAR yesterday as my wife was gone before I came home from work. She had her consultation with a lawyer.
Afterwards, she tells me that her lawyer suggested we set up a "bird's nest" custody arrangment for our kids. Does she actually think I'm going to agree to this?!
My lawyer already told me that if this separation goes through, I shouldn't have any trouble retaining the house, getting primary custody of the kids, and probably seeking spousal support from the wife since she goes to college all day, studies all night, and only has student loan money for income.
Plus, my wife is in complete denial that she did anything wrong at all. Still insists that the messages were between friends, and that the messages between her and the 3rd party were a flirty way of relaying the other conversations. I have moments where I start believing her, but this reasoning makes no sense to me. And she said she could never be with me again after I told a couple of her friends and her mother about the inappropriate conversations.
I'm trying to 180 but I find it so much more difficult when she's in this house and not leaving. I also find it hard since I'm so confused on whether I want an R or not, which I know I shouldn't even be thinking about right now.