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post #46 of 51 (permalink) Old 05-19-2017, 01:57 PM Thread Starter
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Re: My husband is having an affair and I don't think I have the right to stop it

I asked my husband and he said he would enjoy an open marriage and thinks it would be better for us. He wants it to be totally open on both sides but he knows I have no use to sleep with another man. It's probably a last ditch effort to save my marriage. He wants to come up with rules that we both agree on and have to follow. I don't want to think about him with another woman. I don't know how I will compare to a better woman and still have him come home to me. He says he will still be intimate with me, but will get what I can't give him from someone else. I don't want to lose him to someone else. Or have him knock someone up. But it's either this or I'm done and give up. I don't know what kind of rules to want or how to be okay with it...

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Understand that sex floods our system with a cocktail of happy, bonding, hormones. If he is having sex with other women you are risking him bonding to one or more of them.

Also understand that birth control is NOT 100%. Believe me, I know. My oldest is a Pill baby and my middle kid is a condom baby.

Additionally, condoms DO NOT protect against diseases like HPV, genital herpes, or genital warts. Anything spread skin to skin can still be transmitted . That's why it's called safER sex.

Before you agree to this make sure you really know what you're agreeing to.

Follow the evidence where it leads and question everything.

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Before you agree to this make sure you really know what you're agreeing to.
To ohre: I am afraid MJJEAN is aware you cannot know what you are agreeing to. All you can know is you feel trapped.

I wish you could find the happiness you deserve. We can never know if out there in the unknown there is what we need. I'm afraid what you need is not what you have.

Somehow, hold on to yourself. I do think you could do better. But what can any of us know of another.
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Get your testosterone checked. If you have no feeling, I bet you have little testosterone. They make creams you can rub in down there and get your testosterone up so you have feeling. That might fix your sex life and help your relationships
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Everyone on this thread can say you deserve better, but nothing will happen until you believe it.

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Honey. You have every right to stop this.. You are his WIFE. You both took vows before god. It is unbelievable how many people throw them out the window at the drop of a hat or the first sign of trouble.

So many avoid the elephant in the room instead of addressing it. His excuses are just that, excuses nothing more. He refuses to take any of the blame for stepping out on you, his wife. He is making it your fault and you buy that BS. It was his choice, he made that choice on his own....

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