Re: My husband is having an affair and I don't think I have the right to stop it
I have seen 8 specialists. I either get told that they don't know, they put a generic term on it or get referred to someone else. I have gone through every test, biopsy, ultrasound, MRI, tried various hormone treatments, medications, creams. Been told it's from low blood sugar, which was ruled out. Been told it was MS, been ruled out. Told it was psychological, ruled out. Tried various exercises, massage, physical therapy, herbal options, a controversial option. I had two surgeries done, one made it worse and one didn't do anything. It is not a tightness issue. It started when I was 22, after I had my first child with my ex-husband. There was a lot of problems and complications during that delivery and things never went back to normal. I had a surgery before my first husband divorced me to try and help, it made it worse.
I didn't tell him right away but my husband knew about it before we married. He thought it'd be fine because I still would have sex with him whenever he wanted. I'm probably boring to him. If I did a 180 like that I don't think we'd have anything left. It's like trying to sabotage our marriage.
I don't want him to get sex outside our marriage, but I don't think there is really much of a choice. Sex is important and I'm not good enough. I was stupid to get married again. I still don't want to lose my husband.