Re: When a wife cries rape after an affair
OK here are my thoughts on this:
We are talking about an Arab country here and a gulf one at that (as opposed to the Mediterranean ones). Rape is very hard to report in these Islamic countries. The law states (as you have rightly said) that it has to be witnessed by more than one local male and/or the rapist admits it. In certain countries like Pakistan, if the complaint is not upheld, the woman gets put to death for adultery, so it can vary in severity but the net result is to discourage the reporting of rape!
As for her boss - saying he is from the UK maybe technically correct but is an insult! He is an ARAB! In his thinking and the way he acts. So you can expect from him what you expect from the locals with the exception that he is more aware of how to abuse his position of power and knows how to get away with it.
Arabs tend to exploit certain ethnicities more than others - Indians, Sri Lankans, Philippinas, East Europeans get picked on most and many times, this results in them putting up with it to maintain their earning status there. So I will ask you - even though you are from Canada, what is your ethnicity ?
The above question is also linked to why you both value working in the UAE as being that important ??? Its not like the job situation in Canada is that bad. Many Asians and East Europeans value (incorrectly) being in the Middle East - I was born there (as an ex-pat) and 7th circle of hell doesn't even begin to describe it - and I mean from a local behaviour point of view not to mention the unbearable heat, sand storms and lack of anything that grows naturally. What I am trying to say is "WHY THE FVCK DONT YOU GUYS GET THE HELL OUT OF THERE?'
This is not to say that Western women don't get into trouble there. I know somebody from the UK who went there (Dubai - which is more lenient) with her long-term partner, were caught being intimate (nothing too bad) in public, were then investigated and since they were not married, were arrested and their passports confiscated. The partner was thrown into jail and all their financial assets frozen and she ended up living out of a shopping trolley in a supermarket car park with other Europeans helping her to get by. This got sorted out in time and I found out after the fact. It is on the worst case side of things but you need to know more about where you have chosen to work and live.
Once you answer some of the questions above, I can give you a better opinion on whether your wife is lying, telling the truth or something in between. But you should seriously consider getting the hell out of there!
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