Re: My husband has been ****ing another woman for over a year
Our kids are 2, 2, 5, 6 and 8. Two biological and 3 adopted. My husband is 39, I'm 35. Married 12 years. Our bank accounts are separate but I can login to both and see what is in them and being spent. He has no access to mine, because he pays no attention to me and even now has no idea what my passwords are to anything. Financially it's going to suck until things get sorted out. It's not like we're going to be on the street starving, I work, but we're a two income family and need that to be comfortable.
What good will it do to know who she is? Other than to torture myself on the details. Younger, prettier, better. I don't know how I will possibly be able to be calm with him. I have never been this pissed off in my life, and I know it's going to come crashing down at some point and turn into devastation. It has to. All I want is him and his family out of my life. Unfortunately part of his family is my babies.
When my husband and I had been married for 3 months we had a temporary long distance marriage. It lasted 2 months and we were in different countries. My husband had a "close friend" whom he had hooked up with in the past before our relationship. I have never met her. While we were apart this friend stayed with him sometimes, never admitted how often, and swore there was no cheating. He admitted that they slept in the same bed and cuddled but swore it was only as friends and there was no sex or kissing. He doesn't consider even that cheating, I do. Especially because I don't trust that it didn't go past cuddling and spooning all night. We fought about it for quite a while, by the end of our first year of marriage I dropped it. He was always telling me the same story, swearing it was true and I felt like I was being insecure. He told me about it casually, otherwise I never would have known or found out. He hasn't talked to her since.