And you know this how?
With all due respect, I'll side with a 40-year study conducted by the U. Of Chicago (one of the top schools in the country).
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There are so many contridictory studies, one could choose to believe whatever they really wanted to... If your looking for it, there are stats to back anything you wanted to believe...Seriously, this is just a matter of common sense. It's not that I want to believe anything in particular.
These are people. Do you have any idea how many women "take it to the grave" ? or men for that matter. Just people in general... The associated shame, guilt and percived risk of admitting to infidelity assures a large pertentage of people would not be forthright.
This does nothing to address denial, or what one person catagorizes as "fling"... How many people engage in what would be considered by a spouse as an EA yet after the fact the perpetrator dismissed it harmless, just friends. or something else?.. What is the onus for honesty in these studies? If you were to tell me that the participants were assured anonimity and polygraphed, perhaps I internalize the statistics as valid... (if these questions were addressed in this study, my apologee for not having the time to read the entire article.)
I guess it really doesn't matter if these statistics are accurate... It's all academic and I guess mental mastrabation to even argue about it... No one's point could be validated, and we could go round and round. (disclaimer: I didn't read the entire article) I just find the 1 in 5 statistic absurd. 1 in 4, I would have a healthy sceptism but could buy. 1 in 3, would be closer to what I would think accurate... But, that's just me. To each their own. I understand my bias clearly, and realize I can never know the exact truth. I do feel like I know the psychology of people quite well, but they are people in my circles... my truth
is that those numbers are not valid.
Respectfully of course, I understand I dont know.