well..remember you are on a website that might have a skewed sampling of people.. many have problems here.
Having said that, yes - plenty of men are faithful. We've been together close to 25 years and being faithful hasnt been much of a challenge either.
Good friends of ours have been married for close to 35 years... all good. I'd bet my boots they have been completely faithful.
Both of our parents have been married a very long time and all faithful. (as far as anyone knows) But if there was infidlity - trust me, it would be a big deal.
I dont know. Take a hard look at yourself and your sources of 'common wisdom' before accepting too pessemistic a picture.
Its not all roses and honey of course - marriage in general is more fragile than it used to be since social pressure to stay in it have been largely removed when something goes badly - but I still think the potential benefit of a happy marriage still far FAR outweighs any fear people should have about it not working - including infidelity from either partner.
Those statistics are absurd. They are no where near accurate.
The numbers are so much higher than that. 1 in 5 ? That's laughable.
No not really. Kinsey also did a study that bears those numbers out (2011). Kinsey came up with about 22% were unfaithful. Not only that - they found that frequency of sex had nothing to do, statistically with the rate of infidelity, which may surprise some - and not much difference between men and women either.
And you know this how?
With all due respect, I'll side with a 40-year study conducted by the U. Of Chicago (one of the top schools in the country). Posted via Mobile Device
There are so many contridictory studies, one could choose to believe whatever they really wanted to... If your looking for it, there are stats to back anything you wanted to believe...Seriously, this is just a matter of common sense. It's not that I want to believe anything in particular.
These are people. Do you have any idea how many women "take it to the grave" ? or men for that matter. Just people in general... The associated shame, guilt and percived risk of admitting to infidelity assures a large pertentage of people would not be forthright.
This does nothing to address denial, or what one person catagorizes as "fling"... How many people engage in what would be considered by a spouse as an EA yet after the fact the perpetrator dismissed it harmless, just friends. or something else?.. What is the onus for honesty in these studies? If you were to tell me that the participants were assured anonimity and polygraphed, perhaps I internalize the statistics as valid... (if these questions were addressed in this study, my apologee for not having the time to read the entire article.)
I guess it really doesn't matter if these statistics are accurate... It's all academic and I guess mental mastrabation to even argue about it... No one's point could be validated, and we could go round and round. (disclaimer: I didn't read the entire article) I just find the 1 in 5 statistic absurd. 1 in 4, I would have a healthy sceptism but could buy. 1 in 3, would be closer to what I would think accurate... But, that's just me. To each their own. I understand my bias clearly, and realize I can never know the exact truth. I do feel like I know the psychology of people quite well, but they are people in my circles... my truth is that those numbers are not valid.
Respectfully of course, I understand I dont know.
There are so many contridictory studies, one could choose to believe whatever they really wanted to... If your looking for it, there are stats to back anything you wanted to believe...Seriously, this is just a matter of common sense.....
Again - No, not really. Go look at the peer reviewed studies - and they pretty much agree. Thats why they are done, so that our views are not too skewed by what we may think we see in a local environment, or by what someone says on TV, or by what your friends say, or a collection of posts on a website. Rigorous studies put the test to 'common sense' and you cant simply brush them aside. (I mean, you can if you like, but then your are simply engaging in speculation) These studies involve hundreds of couples over decades.
My husband is 100% faithful to me. He doesn't even look at porn or other women(at least when I'm with him). I've looked through his computer history. Zero porn.
I don't mind at all that my husband only has eyes for me. He finds me very attractive and it shows. I truly have a wonderful man and I appreciate all he does for me. My husband has always put my needs before his as well. I let him know how much I appreciate him and how lucky I am to be his wife.
There are really good men out there. Posted via Mobile Device
I can never really know how accurate that is. I don't know if they can either?. I respect the methods & resources invested in gathering these statistics are likely the best available. I'm not disparaging the institution. I do understand I drive a red car, so I tend to see red cars everywhere.... 1 in 5 seems very low.