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post #1 of 26 (permalink) Old 06-15-2017, 07:25 AM Thread Starter
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Infidelity Research

Hello,

I'm currently doing research for my doctorate thesis, which is looking into experiences of infidelity. In particular, I am looking to interview individuals who have been unfaithful to understand what it means to them and how they make sense of it. The research aims to enhance understandings of infidelity, which could help to inform couples' therapy and the field of Counselling Psychology. The research has been granted ethical approval from City, University of London Ethics Board.

I am based in London in the UK, and you would be asked to participate in a one-to-one interview to share your experience. The interview will be a non-judgemental, confidential space and will take place in a mutually convenient location. Your participation would involve one interview, which is approximately 1-1.5 hours. All interviews will remain confidential; pseudonyms and identifying information will be removed from the transcripts.

If anybody would be willing to take part, I would be grateful if you could reply to this post, or private message me. I will then send you an information sheet with further details on the study.

The criteria for participants is:
- Be based in the UK
- Over 25 years old
- Have engaged in a romantic relationship/affair for at least one month, which was outside of your agreed mutually exclusive relationship
- Were cohabiting with your primary partner
- At least one of these relationships has been over for at least 6 months.

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Katy


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Most on TAM in the CWI section are BS and not WS. This place is pretty hostile to the few WS that venture here

I've heard some other forums are more accepting of WS - perhaps someone on TAM could direct you

I'm pretty sure most on CWI would love to understand the mentality of a WS that would cause them to destroy others and relationships with their actions


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I'll direct you to my wife.
You could write a complete dissertation on her alone.
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noun ca·thar·tic \kə-ˈthär-tik\
Definition of cathartic

: a medicine that causes the bowels to be purged (see 1purge 2a) : purgative

I have said my WS is full of sh*t, so I can see where this would be cathartic for him. Good luck with getting the "facts" from people who aren't honest.
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Thanks, I'll have a look at other forums too to see if anyone would be willing to take part! It will definitely be useful to understand infidelity more, it's perplexing.
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That's why the research is important, as it is so common yet poorly understood. Sorry you've been on the receiving end.
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I do fit your criteria but I'm not too keen about opening up my life to a complete stranger. Not sure all cheaters can be lumped together. Everyone has their "reasons" but they are all different. When I look at my personality I can easily pick out why I did the things I did. For starters I simply do not view fidelity the way most people do. A huge part of that is my upbringing. I don't think cheating is right, but I don't see being cheated on as the worst thing that can happen to a person. The other flaw I have is I am never satisfied with anything. Which makes for a successful person in many areas, but....makes me crappy relationship material.
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I have verified dairymother is indeed a student at the university and that she is doing this research. Just wanted to let you all know this.

I hope that dairymother's research goes well.

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Seeing how it is politically incorrect to write why individuals cheat, you will have a up hill battle on you hands.

You might look into this. Instant gratification of today's society and the lack of morals and no character as causes.

Good luck and pray you never have firsthand knowledge about this subject.
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Go to any public Elementary School in the US. You'll find and endless supply of Cheaters (Teachers). Google it.


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I am a former wayward wife. I'd be happy to help your research. AMA.

Follow the evidence where it leads and question everything.
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Seeing how it is politically incorrect to write why individuals cheat, you will have a up hill battle on you hands.

You might look into this. Instant gratification of today's society and the lack of morals and no character as causes.

Good luck and pray you never have firsthand knowledge about this subject.
The OP is looking for people to participate in her research. I don't think that she is asking for anyone to just post stuff here on this thread.

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I'll direct you to my wife.
You could write a complete dissertation on her alone.
You could attain at least four full doctorates alone just by writing about the sordid behavior and exploits of my RSXW!

Now that will roundly educate you!

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The OP is looking for people to participate in her research. I don't think that she is asking for anyone to just post stuff here on this thread.
I know, I think she picked a really hard and diverse subject to do her thesis on. The reason for cheating is going to change for each individual. I wish her luck.
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I know, I think she picked a really hard and diverse subject to do her thesis on. The reason for cheating is going to change for each individual. I wish her luck.
But maybe she can find a range of reasons and how many people report each one. That's helpful

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