Originally Posted by tacoma
Send her a PM through Facebook stating that you have evidence her BF is in an affair with your wife.
Make copies of all the evidence you have and stick it in one package.
Ask her where and when you might be able to meet so you can give her this evidence.
You could just as well e-mail it all if it`s all text anyway I suppose.
Don`t forget to ask her some questions about ratty dude and their relationship.
-How long have they been together?
-Is/was marriage on their radar?
-Is she likely to reconcile with him?
This info could be valuable to you if whether you wish to R or D.
Knowing where ratty is going to be in your wifes life after his D-Day is good info.
-Is he prone to cheating? Has she suspected him or caught him before?
This is info that`s good to have in case your wife does run off with him.
Even besides the GF you should find any and all info about him you can.
Where does he work?
What does he do?
What does he make?
What`s his social life like?
This is all info that may become pertinent down the road.
Knowledge is power.
His girlfriend and he are big downtown scenesters.. she has 500 friends on facebook and he has like 400. I think they have been together for 4 years, and may be having some problems - from what I understand. They dont live together
I know his gf has been jealous of my wife and him being friends.. its funny, my wife was telling me how ridiculous she is to be jealous - she would never mess with him. She was saying how much she didnt like his girlfriend because she was 'controlling'. I mean, my wife is hot - his gf is fat and ugly.
I mean, looking back - even now - almost everything she has said, and her attitude towards him has been only friendly - outwardly. She has told me how she feels bad for him because his girlfriend is a *****, and blah blah blah. Obviously its much different when they are together alone. Maybe my wife lied to him and told him that we are in an open relationship. I mean, who freaking knows at this point. It seems open relationships are hip now. Not hip to me.
All of the text evidence points to the fact that they are having an affair - or at least have had sex at least once, and have shared naked photos... a couple of the deleted texts went like this:
him: Did you get the pic?
her: yes, Im surprised you had it in you to send
him: well, I needed to send the results of what your pic did to me.
another deleted few:
her: I had to watch the video you sent one more time before deleting it
him: naughty girl!
him: Ill make you more whenever you want
Those exchanges were from middle of last month or earlier. (hard to tell dates in the deleted messages)
There was also a text referring to 'last week' and 'dont get all weird on me now' . Other texts referring to handjobs - and him alluding to the fact that she is an expert. Its hard to tell where they are joking and where they are serious.
There are deleted texts about wanting to go sex toy shopping with her, how he would love to see her in ecstasy riding so and so vibrator.
Alot of texts saying how awesome and pretty she is, and at the end of saying how great she is 'I better not say any more'
Unfortunately, its all very jumbled in it's deleted form.
Im thinking, that since he is a wimpy little turd, if I tell his girlfriend - it will scare the bejebus out of him and will really screw with his social life. i.e. she will tell EVERYONE that he is a cheat.