Man posting this makes me nervous, but nonetheless. I feel sick like I already know what the answers may be. Ok so, my wife and I were teenage sweethearts who went
our seperate ways and married other people. Ten years ago, through the magic of Myspace, we reconnected...flirted, met up, and you get the picture.
I left my wife to re-connect with her; she left her husband as well (although it turned out he was already involved in an affair). Ten years have passed and we have 4 beautiful kids as well. We have gone through
some rough patches, but nothing I think like this.
So, let me start by saying she is an fun, exciting, loving personality. Has always expressed great love for me. I on the other hand am somewhat the opposite...reserved I guess.
She has always been so devoted! But almost borderline smothering and clingy as well, which would really be my only gripe. But she's BEAUTIFUL (seriously) so I have to count myself lucky I guess.
For what it's worth, She was basically the only child of a successful ministry family, she put out a couple albums in the 90's...but yes, for the past 8 years it has been
life stuck at the house raising kids while I went to work.
Her previous marriage lasted 10 years. She once told me a fellow she worked with at her father's church invited her to meet him at a motel. According to her,
she went there, they briefly hugged, he kissed her and she ran home and confessed to her husband. I believed that...I knew no other side of her.
Now, I'll keep this short. A year and half ago January 2nd, 2016, she woke me up frantic. I was in a daze. She confessed she had been chatting with an ex-boyfriend
on Facebook for a month. She said she felt bad, and broke it off with him after Xmas, he went crazy and was threatening to come shoot her (He lived 5 hrs away). She went on
to say she sent him a revealing picture of her posing topless the prior week but nothing else really serious. I was floored. Thought maybe I was dreaming.
Never, this cant be real! She also told me she was only chatting with him because I never showed her love or attention etc etc. I believed it. I had no plan
for this. The next couple months I struggled, bad. She really didnt want to discuss what happened without telling me about my mistakes (Years ago) and how they drove her
to this. We would yell and cry and talk. The truth (I guess) trickled over that time AND she pointed out she confessed to it to me so wasnt hiding anything; they started innocent texting; Never talked about sexual stuff; talked some
crap about me; and sent him a naked pic. to which he simply said she was beautiful. I believed it. I didnt feel right though; She couldnt have been making plans to meet up with him
could she? I found a motel in his town mapquested. She denied it saying she simply wanted to see where his town was at, it chose that particular spot. I believed her.
He sent an email to our family account telling her the hotel reservations (a different one in a nearby big city) and plans were all BS and SHE BROKE HIS HEART AND
strung him along, using him. She explained he was a meth head and was just trying to stir up trouble. I believed her. I wanted to believe her. Let me tell you, our
Email box after that stayed CLEAN even deleted emails.
Oh BTW, the topless pic she sent to him, she sent the same one to me the day I was released from the hospital fighting a very serious infection. I wonder who got the pic
first? Fast forward 6 months, she's in a new band. I'm a silent basket case. A younger guy, late 20's, the guitarist, And her I find are texting each other like
30-60 times a day. I found that out by secretly looking at our bill online. So I snuck her outside one night, and sure enough, MUCH of their texting was deleted.
I went crazy and left for a day and a half. She said nothing bad was said, he simply would compliment her beauty for her age in an effort to build up her self-esteem.
She would NOT press him for the deleted text. He sent one or two screenshots of them out with the rest of the band texting each other basic stuff. When I wanted
more, she said he had just gotten a new phone so the other stuff was gone. I believed her. I made peace with them both and was sorry for almost breaking up the band.
He has sense left the band. She would never admit the amount of texts were alarming, they were friends, I was stupid for reading too much into things. I kinda
believed her. He seemed to be a good guy as well.
Here's my issue. My gut is killing me. She sleeps on top of her phone. She is on it constantly. I'm angry and kinda feel played.
That's 3 times an EA has happened in 20 years and of course she confirms this. She is still so loving and needy of me. I dont know what
I'm trying to say I guess.
our seperate ways and married other people. Ten years ago, through the magic of Myspace, we reconnected...flirted, met up, and you get the picture.
I left my wife to re-connect with her; she left her husband as well (although it turned out he was already involved in an affair). Ten years have passed and we have 4 beautiful kids as well. We have gone through
some rough patches, but nothing I think like this.
So, let me start by saying she is an fun, exciting, loving personality. Has always expressed great love for me. I on the other hand am somewhat the opposite...reserved I guess.
She has always been so devoted! But almost borderline smothering and clingy as well, which would really be my only gripe. But she's BEAUTIFUL (seriously) so I have to count myself lucky I guess.
For what it's worth, She was basically the only child of a successful ministry family, she put out a couple albums in the 90's...but yes, for the past 8 years it has been
life stuck at the house raising kids while I went to work.
Her previous marriage lasted 10 years. She once told me a fellow she worked with at her father's church invited her to meet him at a motel. According to her,
she went there, they briefly hugged, he kissed her and she ran home and confessed to her husband. I believed that...I knew no other side of her.
Now, I'll keep this short. A year and half ago January 2nd, 2016, she woke me up frantic. I was in a daze. She confessed she had been chatting with an ex-boyfriend
on Facebook for a month. She said she felt bad, and broke it off with him after Xmas, he went crazy and was threatening to come shoot her (He lived 5 hrs away). She went on
to say she sent him a revealing picture of her posing topless the prior week but nothing else really serious. I was floored. Thought maybe I was dreaming.
Never, this cant be real! She also told me she was only chatting with him because I never showed her love or attention etc etc. I believed it. I had no plan
for this. The next couple months I struggled, bad. She really didnt want to discuss what happened without telling me about my mistakes (Years ago) and how they drove her
to this. We would yell and cry and talk. The truth (I guess) trickled over that time AND she pointed out she confessed to it to me so wasnt hiding anything; they started innocent texting; Never talked about sexual stuff; talked some
crap about me; and sent him a naked pic. to which he simply said she was beautiful. I believed it. I didnt feel right though; She couldnt have been making plans to meet up with him
could she? I found a motel in his town mapquested. She denied it saying she simply wanted to see where his town was at, it chose that particular spot. I believed her.
He sent an email to our family account telling her the hotel reservations (a different one in a nearby big city) and plans were all BS and SHE BROKE HIS HEART AND
strung him along, using him. She explained he was a meth head and was just trying to stir up trouble. I believed her. I wanted to believe her. Let me tell you, our
Email box after that stayed CLEAN even deleted emails.
Oh BTW, the topless pic she sent to him, she sent the same one to me the day I was released from the hospital fighting a very serious infection. I wonder who got the pic
first? Fast forward 6 months, she's in a new band. I'm a silent basket case. A younger guy, late 20's, the guitarist, And her I find are texting each other like
30-60 times a day. I found that out by secretly looking at our bill online. So I snuck her outside one night, and sure enough, MUCH of their texting was deleted.
I went crazy and left for a day and a half. She said nothing bad was said, he simply would compliment her beauty for her age in an effort to build up her self-esteem.
She would NOT press him for the deleted text. He sent one or two screenshots of them out with the rest of the band texting each other basic stuff. When I wanted
more, she said he had just gotten a new phone so the other stuff was gone. I believed her. I made peace with them both and was sorry for almost breaking up the band.
He has sense left the band. She would never admit the amount of texts were alarming, they were friends, I was stupid for reading too much into things. I kinda
believed her. He seemed to be a good guy as well.
Here's my issue. My gut is killing me. She sleeps on top of her phone. She is on it constantly. I'm angry and kinda feel played.
That's 3 times an EA has happened in 20 years and of course she confirms this. She is still so loving and needy of me. I dont know what
I'm trying to say I guess.