02-13-2012, 06:11 AM
Join Date: Feb 2011
Location: USA All The Way
| | Re: Long distance EA
Originally Posted by OKnotokay
Yes, I know it. My WS went into my email and forwarded an email from me to my parents explaining my issues that contributed to why my WS & I were getting divorced (very similar to my recitation a few postings ago). I didn't tell them about the EA or the planned PA. I felt that was too private.
I haven't even told my family about the EA - didn't want to go there because I, foolishly, still held out hope that she would come out of the fog and realize that I was a good man and a good husband and that I was willing to do what it took to make our marriage work.
I was tempted to forward the emails back & forth along with her admission that she planned to have a PA with him but what's the point? Revenge? It's not going to change her.
Let me get this straight: You're going to allow her to demonize you as a lousy husband to everyone while you take her dirty secrets to the grave? Why? Do you think you're being gallant by falling on your sword?
You have a chance of knocking her out of the fog by exposing the affair and making it inconvenient for her. But if you're rather be a martyr and let her demonize you as a lousy husband, well, that's up to you. She's making you out ot be a chump. Get over this chivalry thing. Why are you protecting her honor? She's feeling no consequences for her actions, and no consequences equals no incentive to change.
Last edited by lordmayhem; 02-13-2012 at 06:33 AM.