You won`t get that if you proceed the way you`re heading.
Devastated, your wife doesn`t give a damn about you right now.
Maybe she`ll come out of this fog and maybe she won`t but I do know they never come out as long as the BS and everyone around them continue to make their life easier.
She doesn`t seem to care about anything but the money.
Why make this easy on her?
Why give her a golden parachute when she obviously doesn`t deserve one?
I would like to hear a legal opinion in regards to prenup agreements.
I thought they were only used to protect your assets that you acquired before marriage.
There is no fault divorce in most states and in Canada. What is pretty much standard is that the assets are divided 50%. Child support is based on each of the spouses income and/or earning potential. Spousal support is based on each of the spouses income and/or earning potential and length of marriage.
Can a prenup override what the law says? Is a prenup legal that says, "If either party cheats, the other gets nothing."?
I am thinking that because of 'no fault' divorce, a prenup that really changes it to 'fault' divorce would be thrown out.
I know I am frustrating. I am an emotional wreck and I'm not thinking clearly which is why I am here looking for help.
You want help? Really? Then I challenge you to download and read a free copy of Dr Rober Glover's book No More Mr Nice Guy and implement its principles.
Your wife has contempt for you because you have no self respect. Implementing the principles found in the link I've given you will help you gain the self-respect you've been missing.
My emotional affair was definitely a huge turning point in our marriage. It's almost like she has been trying to move past my EA, but just can't. It's kind of like she is finally leaving me because of my affair.
That's ridiculous. You're just swallowing her affair babble. She cheated because she wanted the excitement of another man.
It had NOTHING to do with anything you did.
Stop making excuses for her and LEAD your family - him or me. Decide NOW.
The child support amount is not going to be enough for her to live on. She is going to have to get a job in order to take care of herself and our boys. She is terrified and furious about her financial situation that I "put her in". She regrets giving up so much for me, and thinks that I ruined her life. She is worried about having to drop out of school and take our boys to live with her parents out of state.
First, this is WAY too early to be talking about divorce settlements. Shut the hell up! Right now, ALL you need to be talking about is her giving up OM. Period.
Even if you have decided that you're 'sure' you don't want her any more, you're making the most important decision of your life at a time when your emotions are so over the board that you don't even know what you really want.
Just slow down, back off, and focus on the issue at hand - stopping the affair. If you just kick her out, all she'll do is take YOUR kids and go live with him. Is that what you really want?
btw, I'm pretty sure she can't legally take the kids to another state without your permission. Stop letting all these things push your buttons, slow down, and get a clear head.
You can expose the affair and cut off her money and make continuing the affair as miserable as possible.
She will NEVER want to reconcile with you while she still wants to see OM. Women don't love two men at the same time. Right now, she loves him.
Get him out of the picture.
I am trying to get the other man out of the picture, but it's my wife decision ultimately. Right now, she is still talking with him.
I've exposed the affair and restricted her money.
I agree that she can't love me and have feelings for him at the same time, but I don't know what else to do to make her give up the other man. I'm open to all suggestions though.
He is single and I don't know enough about him to tell his family.
Grow a pair and tell her that since she loves another man that she cannot stay and to pack her bags to go live with the OM. If she does not want to go then contact the OM in front of her and tell him to come up and pick up 'his woman' and her things. She'll hate your guts for doing it but deep down she'll respect you for it.
Grow a pair and tell her that since she loves another man that she cannot stay and to pack her bags to go live with the OM. If she does not want to go then contact the OM in front of her and tell him to come up and pick up 'his woman' and her things. She'll hate your guts for doing it but deep down she'll respect you for it.
It's not that simple.
She says that they are not that serious. (I don't necessarily believe that though). What about our two sons? I am leaving town on Monday morning for work. I don't want to disrupt the life of my boys like that because their mother is a cheater.
I'm just going to file for divorce. I've found some DIY websites and I'm going to give them a try.
Does anyone have any reviews or recommndations for the DIY divorce websites?
You have to have boundaries and you have to be strong enough to enforce them. If she refuses to stop contact with OM, then you have to talk to a lawyer, draw up papers (legal separation or divorce) and serve her. She needs to know that the marriage is over if she continues to disrespect you.
Like Morituri says, she will be pissed, but she will respect you.
As far as the money goes, I don't agree with holding it back so that she stays with you. Who wants a spouse that only chooses to stay with you because she can't afford not to?
She says that they are not that serious. (I don't necessarily believe that though). What about our two sons? I am leaving town on Monday morning for work. I don't want to disrupt the life of my boys like that because their mother is a cheater.
Not that serious?
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she told him she wants to have lots of sex very soon
More the reason why you need to tell her to go live with the OM - that way the two of them can fvck their brains out all the way through the divorce.
re-read your posts, your going from you miss her and want to R, then you just want the big D, Do you want your wife? and a chance at R? listen to what everyone is trying to tell you, you can not make those huge descions right now your emotions are all over the board, get PISSED OFF, use anger as a tool, channel it, right now you should be focusing on how to break up the affair....these folks are trying to help you to save some time and pain!
they are trying to make you see that its time to man up!!!!
Read and read on TAM, KNOWLEDGE IS POWER!!!!
I just don't know how my sons will do over there while I am out of town.
That is HER problem not yours. I'm sure the OM will have a fun time playing step-daddy, though it definitely will put a crimp in him wanting to bang you stbxw.
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