Desperately want to end wife's affair

COguy · 01-29-2012, 09:09 PM

Yeah and stating the obvious, she could have diseases. If you do the hump nasty make sure you use a rubber.

Devastated2 · 01-29-2012, 09:43 PM

I wasn't dumb enough to take the bait.

This week is going to turn her world upside down.

I am already planning on cutting her off financially after I confront her. Then it's on to the lawyer's office.

The advice here seems spot on. I'm going to convince her (and myself) that I will move on without her and my life will be better off.

crossbar · 01-29-2012, 10:02 PM

Warlock is right. She may be coming on to you because she see's that something is wrong with you. Subconiously, you're not acting right and she's trying to put you at ease.

If this guy has a FB page, look it up and see if you can view his relationship status. Sometimes they'll list who they're with. Thus, you'll know the girlfriend or at least have a name.

Devastated2 · 01-29-2012, 10:08 PM

It was definitely a surprise for her to initiate sex, especially considering that she didn't want to kiss me for weeks. She hasn't been responding when I have said "I love you" or "I miss you" for a few weeks also. I still don't understand what her motives were. It was so random, basically it was "I'm horny let's have sex." I was trying to talk to her and kiss her. But, she was just saying things like "just shut up", "don't talk", and "I just wanted some sex."

I checked FB. His info is private. That creep is one step ahead of me. Maybe, I can get my cheating wife to tell me the OM's girlfriend's name when I confront her.

Complexity · 01-29-2012, 11:14 PM

Bad move having sex with her.

spudster · 01-29-2012, 11:19 PM

No, I don't believe he had sex with her.

Complexity · 01-30-2012, 12:01 AM

Ah, sorry my mistake, good move then lol

lordmayhem · 01-30-2012, 12:24 AM

Affair sex is ALMOST ALWAYS UNPROTECTED SEX. Its part of the thrill of the act.
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Almostrecovered · 01-30-2012, 05:38 AM

get a keylogger on her computer and get her FB password, then you can get to the OM's gf by using her account to look at his FB page

Devastated2 · 01-30-2012, 01:01 PM

I am going to surprise her tonight. She thinks that I am out of town and I am going to just show up tonight after our kids are in bed. I'm basically planning to say this "Wife, I know about your affair otherwise I wouldn't be here. I won't be in an open relationship with you. I'm not going to give you X days, weeks, months for you to make up your mind. If you can't decide now between the other man and me then I will decide for you. You can be with him. I love you and I wish you the best of luck with him." (Thanks Morituri!)

My plan is to get a rental car so I can watch over our house tonight, and hopefully catch the other man there. If not, I'm going to confront her anyway.

I asked her again last night about marriage counseling, and she said that she is too busy. She doesn't know that I know she was texting the other man last night. If she wants to reconcile, I'm sure she can find plenty of time to work on our marriage that she was spending on him.

She keeps her tablet on lock down and has been very protective of it for months since she got it. She says that it is "her's" and "she wants everyone else to leave it alone".

If she wants to reconcile, then i'm going to tell her that she has to agree to have no contact with the other man. Then, I'm taking her tablet and cell phone with me while I return my rental car just to make sure. When I return there will be keylogger software on both of them.

tacoma · 01-30-2012, 01:12 PM

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Originally Posted by Devastated2

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She keeps her tablet on lock down and has been very protective of it for months since she got it. She says that it is "her's" and "she wants everyone else to leave it alone".

What kind of tablet are we talking about?
If it's an iPad there is no key logger that can be used on a factory set iPad.

However you can access the sync files from whatever computer she syncs to which is just as good.
If she syncs it to a computer and not just iCloud.
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CH · 01-30-2012, 01:14 PM

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Originally Posted by Devastated2

I will move on without her and my life will be better off.

I fixed it for you. You move on without her. And if by some miracle she actually feels like coming for the ride and being a faithful wife again then you can re-assess the situation and decide if you even want her along for the ride or not.

GL to you this week. BTW, if you do catch them in the act red-handed. You'll never be able to take her back. That image will be burned into your mind for the rest of your life.

Devastated2 · 01-30-2012, 01:23 PM

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Originally Posted by tacoma

What kind of tablet are we talking about?
If it's an iPad there is no key logger that can be used on a factory set iPad.

However you can access the sync files from whatever computer she syncs to which is just as good.
If she syncs it to a computer and not just iCloud.
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Yes, it is an iPad. She never syncs it. It's almost like she is good at keeping information from me.

Claude Veritas · 01-30-2012, 01:31 PM

Get That Cunning Crap Sl *t out of your Home...after baring her ...ASAP...

Soooory on the vocabulary..!!

Almostrecovered · 01-30-2012, 01:33 PM

If she agrees to R then complete transparency is a must

Right then and there she gives up passwords
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