02-02-2012, 08:14 AM
Join Date: Dec 2011
| | Re: Desperately want to end wife's affair
Originally Posted by Saffron
Try to keep in mind that your wife chose to put her career on hold, perhaps you encouraged it or even preferred it but it was still her decision too. Many women continue to work or continue their education while raising a family. If she wanted it enough, you both could've ensured she was able to pursue her education and career.
Now your wife is feeling unfulfilled with her choices in life. She wants to blame others instead of taking action and making productive changes like going back to school or getting a job. Another man is not going to improve her perspective career choices, sounds more like she just doesn't want to work. Period. She'd rather have your financial support while she gets her emotional and physical satisfaction elsewhere.
She's trying to manipulate you into an open marriage without the actual marriage. She made the choice knowing there was a prenup. She could have made another choice that didn't involve her sleeping with another man. The more you give the more she'll feel entitled to. Is her attitude a good one for your kids to see in their mom? Shouldn't your children come to realize that there are consequences for every action. Well, your wife needs to learn this lesson now so you can both teach them that all important lesson later. If you give in to her crap your children will learn that as long as they whine and cry enough they'll get what they want. She dropped the ball. You need to be the good example now.