Join Date: Mar 2011
Location: Southern california
Re: one more thing I do not understand
I am not sure how much she really wants to R.----She is still being selfish, and not owning up to what she did, in which she treated you as a POS, and with total disrespect.
She said she couldn't see you doing the things she did with her lover---that is a total crock----Maybe you arn't into what she was doing---but what she was doing was so out of line it doesn't matter, and what she was doing, has destroyed your carefree life, wrecked your peace of mind, and destroyed your trust.
She is still being selfish, to make this work, if that is what you want she MUST become selfless-----she should be remorseful, contrite, if necessary grovel---she is none of that---in stead she says to you---I did these things with my lover, cuz I couldn't see doing them with you.
No matter how this goes down, she has ripped you apart, and you probably in all reality are not going to forget----It isn't necessarily the actual things she did with her lover---its that she did them with him, when she has never even considered doing those same things with you her H., who she took sacred vows with.
Yes you are very right about drama, at an equestrian center, some weird things go down, where there are women, and their horses.