Originally Posted by Falene
In my perspective, a Bachelor/Bachelorette party isn't going to make anyone do something they aren't already doing or going to do anyways.
Would it be considered cheating? Anytime you pledge yourself to another and betray that trust you are cheating. Duh.
Is it on the same level of breaking your marriage vows? I am sure the faithful partner would certainly think so.
From the stories I have read about such events, the biggest problem for both and men and women, is that they most likely have at least one friend who will suggest them do something a bit too sexual in order to say goodbye to the care-free lifestyle they won't have anymore.
The thing is that many times the brides/grooms actually take those suggestions and then rationalize it was a one-time thing, it was just for fun, it didn't mean anything to them and all those excuses which do not dimish the severity of their actions.
That is why these kinds of events make me worried. I have, in the past, been cheated on by a bf on his birthday party, and he did so with a stripper. Well, she had sex with him so I guess that would make her a prostitute also.
But anyway, before he went to the party he gave a massive guilty trip in order for me to be okay with the whole thing. He said a lot of things but the main message was: "Fine if you don't want me to go I won't, but... I will always remember you as a controlling gf!" I changed my mind and it backfired on me BIG time.
A lot people say that it's all about trust. But I don't really see it that way, at least not 100%. After all what's so great about being able to trust your SO if they choose no to honor the trust you place on them?
Like I said the issue I have with these events is that most of the times people will use them as an excuse to do things they believe cannot be consider cheating, at least not in that one occasion.
But that's just me, I know everyone may see it in a different manner.