Every now and again we hear stories of people (males and females) who cheat on their furure husbands/wifes at their bachelor/bachelorette parties.
Do you guys believe this common pratice? Is this the norm for most people or it is rare?
Do guy feels it is alright if it's just for that time or do you think it is still cheating?
If you found out, after many years of marriage, that your spouse cheated on you at their BP what would you do? Split or put behind you as just a one-time thing?
Do any of you have any stories?
PS.:By cheating I mean any sort of sexual/intimate behaviour one should have with a SO only. That includes HJs, BJs, kissing, licking intimate body parts, touching genitals, etc...
Every now and again we hear stories of people (males and females) who cheat on their furure husbands/wifes at their bachelor/bachelorette parties.
Do you guys believe this common pratice? Is this the norm for most people or it is rare?
Do guy feels it is alright if it's just for that time or do you think it is still cheating?
If you found out, after many years of marriage, that your spouse cheated on you at their BP what would you do? Split or put behind you as just a one-time thing?
Do any of you have any stories?
PS.:By cheating I mean any sort of sexual/intimate behaviour one should have with a SO only. That includes HJs, BJs, kissing, licking intimate body parts, touching genitals, etc...
Well if you've read my about my now **** marriage you'd see I'm going through something similar, although it was my wife screwing my supposedly best friend during our first six months of dating.
I've been thinking of divorcing her but I don't know if I'm up for it yet. A small part of me still loves her.
I have never heard of any stories like this happening so I don't know if it's common or not.
I don't know if it's a common practice. Sure hope not. I cheated on my future wife 2 weeks before our wedding. What I did will always haunt me. I was marrying a woman so fine the priest who married us was talking about how she looked like a movie star. I think she looked better because she was genuine. I acted like nothing but a low life who didn't deserve her. I'd take it back in a heartbeat if I could.
That's very interesting. You had the steak already. But you craved....hamburger? What was missing in your relationship with your then fiancé? Or was it a case of getting it on as much as you could? Posted via Mobile Device
That's very interesting. You had the steak already. But you craved....hamburger? What was missing in your relationship with your then fiancé? Or was it a case of getting it on as much as you could? Posted via Mobile Device
I felt on top of the world and my own selfish appetite lusted for more. It's like being on drugs but I was hooked on fine women and the feeling of power associated with having fine women. It made me feel like a somebody. Plus I really had so much fear the marriage would fail because I, myself did not feel worthy. I thought why did she choose me? I just couldn't feel like anybody could truly love me so I strayed as a way to be the lousy person I thought I was. Posted via Mobile Device
lol - I dont think so. not even close. but maybe others disagree. If they do count, Im guilty. My buddies took me out to SC for BatchP arty and payed to have me drug on stage, tied to a chair and giving lap dances by 3-4 different dancers at the same time... it wasn't pleasant as they forgot to ask and it turned out one of the dancers was S&M type... I ended up almost losing contiousness, think I had a bloody lip and a big knot on the back of my head... so would that be cheating???
Get drunk. Black out. Wake up with a monkey in the hotel room. Or a tiger.
WHat other reason do you need for all that fun?! Posted via Mobile Device
I love those movies!!
Seriously though - I've always thought bachelor parties were a really bad idea. A bunch of guys with nothing to lose trying to get another guy drunk enough to do something stupid - that sounds like a great plan. I managed to avoid one when I got married.
It's still cheating - there's no free pass because it's a bachelor party.
lol - I dont think so. not even close. but maybe others disagree. If they do count, Im guilty. My buddies took me out to SC for BatchP arty and payed to have me drug on stage, tied to a chair and giving lap dances by 3-4 different dancers at the same time... it wasn't pleasant as they forgot to ask and it turned out one of the dancers was S&M type... I ended up almost losing contiousness, think I had a bloody lip and a big knot on the back of my head... so would that be cheating???
You were tied up and helpless. In no way could that be cheating. If you chose to be tied up then that's a different story. Posted via Mobile Device
You were tied up and helpless. In no way could that be cheating. If you chose to be tied up then that's a different story. Posted via Mobile Device
Im a grown man, and not a small one. I could prevented the girls from dragging me on stage...
I was trying to be a good sport, mostly for the benefit of the 100+ people in the club and my gang of buddies as they were hooting and hollering and throwing dollar bills... Trust me when I say they had much more fun than I did... I got hit so hard in the face with some crazy S&M chicks boobies that it busted my lip and the back of my head hit this brass pole on the dance floor so hard (4-5x) that I had a big knot on my head.. Then I got drug around the stage with my own belt around my neck so rough (w/ hand tieds behind my back) I almost passed out/choked to death. It was a very unpleasant experience.
But, I would be curious to hear someone that said they felt that I was cheating by playing along ?...
Im a grown man, and not a small one. I could prevented the girls from dragging me on stage...
I was trying to be a good sport, mostly for the benefit of the 100+ people in the club and my gang of buddies as they were hooting and hollering and throwing dollar bills... Trust me when I say they had much more fun than I did... I got hit so hard in the face with some crazy S&M chicks boobies that it busted my lip and the back of my head hit this brass pole on the dance floor so hard (4-5x) that I had a big knot on my head.. Then I got drug around the stage with my own belt around my neck so rough (w/ hand tieds behind my back) I almost passed out/choked to death.
But, I would be curious to hear someone that said they felt that I was cheating by playing along ?...
I've seen this many times. Of course you don't want to cause a scene and be a good sport. It's not cheating at all. I wouldn't be offended if my wife had a party like that. But if she went and blew him in the parking lot or worse, then thats a different story.
I think cheating would be hiring the strippers for a private bachelor party, then taking one in the bedroom and banging her. But being taken on stage and handcuffed and getting a few lap dances, please. Its harmless fun. Unless you got taken backstage or in the parking lot for some extra action.
lol - I dont think so. not even close. but maybe others disagree. If they do count, Im guilty. My buddies took me out to SC for BatchP arty and payed to have me drug on stage, tied to a chair and giving lap dances by 3-4 different dancers at the same time... it wasn't pleasant as they forgot to ask and it turned out one of the dancers was S&M type... I ended up almost losing contiousness, think I had a bloody lip and a big knot on the back of my head... so would that be cheating???
Well I guess it would depend on what truly happens during a lap dance. Many men say it's harmless. But what does harmless mean? Many men would be pissed at the thought of their women doing the same. Yet they may say when they did was okay, and some women may do the same of course.
Like you said, some people see things in a differeny light.
Personally I am not THAT comfortable with the idea of my future husband letting a naked (or nearly naked) woman sit on his genitals, rub herself on them, give him an erection and from then on give a fair amount of sexual pleasure, like she is dry-humping him.
Whould most men be okay with a male stripper rubbing any part of his body on their woman's crotch and give her some pleasure, dry-humping her?
It would also bother me the idea of my future husband licking or putting his mouth someone else's breast.
Most guys would say I am overreacting over nothing, but like I said, many men would not like it either. The thought of their women licking any body part of a stripper, doing body shots, etc...
Maybe this one the problems with bachelor/bachelorette parties isn't it?
Men and women have different ideas of what is acceptabe and what it's not. And most men and women will always want to defend themselves.
In your case, I guess you did not cheat, specially if your girl was alright with what went on.
Im a grown man, and not a small one. I could prevented the girls from dragging me on stage...
I was trying to be a good sport, mostly for the benefit of the 100+ people in the club and my gang of buddies as they were hooting and hollering and throwing dollar bills... Trust me when I say they had much more fun than I did... I got hit so hard in the face with some crazy S&M chicks boobies that it busted my lip and the back of my head hit this brass pole on the dance floor so hard (4-5x) that I had a big knot on my head.. Then I got drug around the stage with my own belt around my neck so rough (w/ hand tieds behind my back) I almost passed out/choked to death. It was a very unpleasant experience.
But, I would be curious to hear someone that said they felt that I was cheating by playing along ?...
What's sad is as a man I know firsthand how guys condone other guys bad behavior. I've had my own father in law flirt in front of me and act to me like being that kind of guy was acceptable. It's about respecting one's self. Me and my best friend would brag about our conquest. Most women have know idea what their husband really does. Ironically I have a set policy at work that makes a guys advance on a female emplouee a dischargable offense. Even when I acted as a cheater I never attempted to do so in my 12 years as a manager. Posted via Mobile Device
I won't ever have the full story about what my wife did or didn't do, but my take on it is, if you got it in your substance, you'll keep on doing it. Or maybe if you got the willpower at the start, you won't do it and just someday make yourself crazy with the wanting of it, which makes you just about as useless. If you don't have it in your substance, you won't go there. Counts for everything from cheating on your loved one to cheating on your diet.
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Cheating right before the wedding 
