5 months after I got together with my boyfriend I ended up with an STI. I did some research on it and talked to some nurses about it and I wanted to know what the incubation period was between contracting the infection and developing symptoms. I know we hadn't been together long, so I wondered if he or I could have had this prior to getting together and symptoms only showed up 5 months later? The unanimous answer from the DR's and nurses is that no that wasn't possible...the incubation period between contraction and symptoms is 4-28 days.
Well I know I haven't been with anyone else so now my thoughts turned to him...I asked him if he'd been with anyone else, but he swares up and down that he's only been with me....I'm really very confused, I want to believe him...I really do....he seems so genuine when he tells me he has never strayed.
Any thoughts on this? What would you do/think in this situation. At this point I'd be more upset with the lies if I found out it's true....I would never be able to trust him ever again. Am I being paranoid to think he has been fooling around? This is really eating away at me....any thoughts??
If the evidence shows objectively that the STI couldn't have been from prior to your relationship and you haven't been with anyone else then he has been with someone else.
My thoughts... You've lost your trust because everything is telling you that he's strayed, and he's not confessing to anything. Does he know why you're asking him if he's strayed? Does he have any brilliant ideas about how you managed to get an STI?
How long have the two of you been together? More than 5 months, I'm taking it.
I so wish single ladies on the dating scene were bold enough to let the first date with their potential whatever be at the clinic. When you date a man and some time has gone by and you end up back together you should go to the doctor and share results. That way, when mess like this pops up, you can be confident and not doubt if he strayed.
If more men and women would care enough about their life and body WANTING to know the status of the person they are dating, trusting and laying down with..................................
Ask yourself these questions:
Does this man look at me and see a "clean" woman because we have dated and slept together before?
Do I think he is a "clean" man because I dated and slept with him before?
But when you end up with an STI, someone is ignorantly looking at a face or body and choosing not to use protection on looks or feelings/ no feelings. Now see what you ended up with? If he brought the STI into the relationship or if he brought it while he is in the relationship with you now still shows how careless he is. (both of you for that matter) Please learn a lesson in this. It may not be an STI the next time- it could be a full blown package dear.
The ago is trichomoniasis....we were both treated for it with medication to not continue its spread. However, if u read up on it.....it does say most people are asymptomatic but should the develop symptoms which I did, it usually takes between 4-28 days. Posted via Mobile Device
The ago is trichomoniasis....we were both treated for it with medication to not continue its spread. However, if u read up on it.....it does say most people are asymptomatic but should the develop symptoms which I did, it usually takes between 4-28 days. Posted via Mobile Device
If most people are asymptomatic then it`s quite possible your SO is telling the truth and has been faithful.
He could have been carrying it unknown to him for quite awhile.
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An asymptomatic carrier (healthy carrier or just carrier) is a person or other organism that has contracted an infectious disease, but who displays no symptoms. Although unaffected by the disease themselves, carriers can transmit it to others. Asymptomatic carrier - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
You should talk to a health care professional about the asymptomatic part of the disease. I'm surprised it wasn't mentioned if it was a common or even possible thing, since the kind of mistrust an STI creates can destroy relationships. BTW, was your boyfriend diagnosed, or just treated?
My boyfriend was only treated.....not tested since we were in an intimate relationship.
And yes I did consider that he could be asymptomatic and had no idea....so I spoke with a health care professional and told them we had been sexually active for almost 6 months before I developed symptoms....was this normal I asked her....her reply....no....symptoms develop 4-28 days after infection......beyond that time frame should there be no symptoms you are then considered asymptomatic. Therefore, if he did have this prior to meeting me I would have developed symptoms within a month of becoming intimate with him. Posted via Mobile Device
My boyfriend was only treated.....not tested since we were in an intimate relationship.
And yes I did consider that he could be asymptomatic and had no idea....so I spoke with a health care professional and told them we had been sexually active for almost 6 months before I developed symptoms....was this normal I asked her....her reply....no....symptoms develop 4-28 days after infection......beyond that time frame should there be no symptoms you are then considered asymptomatic. Therefore, if he did have this prior to meeting me I would have developed symptoms within a month of becoming intimate with him. Posted via Mobile Device
Yeah, in that light it looks like he was cheating.
There`s no other option based on the evidence is there?
I presume you were having unprotected sex with him all along? No condoms before?
I think he cheated. You could approach him with your concerns and say that medically it seems impossible that he had it before you met and only passed it to you recently. All the evidence tells you that he was unfaithful. But you want to give him the opportunity to prove the docs wrong, and he can take a polygraph test.
Your health care provider was wrong. Tricomonas infections are the most common STI. Plus, a FULL 70% of infected persons show absolutely NO signs of infection. Thus, he could have been a carrier for years and not have had the slightest clue. Then, by chance, you were infected. Perhaps you never caught the disease for several months, but then by chance, enough of the parasite was passed to you that you finally started showing symptoms. Or perhaps, you were infected immediately, but didn't show any signs at all, until further repeated infections by him your body jut had enough in trying to fight off the infection.
Yes. Infection symptoms will show after 5 to 28 days. But only after you become one of the 30% whom start to show symptoms.
Did he cheat? Possible. About 3.7 million people in the US alone are carriers. He could have caught it from one of them. Could he be telling the truth? Well...that's about 70% in his favor. Posted via Mobile Device
You can get tricomonas from uncooked steak. But....unless he's got a very very bizarre fetish...that's highly unlikely he got his junk messed up from uncooked meat. Posted via Mobile Device
Ummmm.....well it just seems odd, because 2 months after becoming intimate with him I went for my annual pap test and annual sti testing....got a clean bill of health then, only to develop symptoms 3 months later.....something doesn't jive. If the health care professionals are wrong (which I doubt) then what relief is there in getting sti testing?? Why bother then. Just to add on a side note....I got sti tested after my last serious relationship a year prior....and nothing then either. I had not been intimate with anyone else in between, I'm sorry but I feel the cards are lining up against his favour here. Posted via Mobile Device
You have to remember that doctors are just people, not encyclopedias, and they are often wrong. Maybe he/she skimmed over that chapter in med school. Or only read the bold text in the book, indicating the incubation period. Nurses, well, they tend to agree with whatever a doctor says, and could just be parroting back this information to you.
Tricomonas is also very difficult to detect. In many cases it can lie dormant in your vagina and still show up negative on STI testing. Unless they happened to sample that exact spot in your vagina containing the parasite, it will show up negative on the tests. Until it blooms to life, and then they are in full production and start causing symptoms.
So...it's still possible he's telling you the truth. But I would still look for other indicators, such as behavior etc in him, as signs of being unfaithful. Posted via Mobile Device
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Is science proving he was unfaithful? 
