Wow. She is already missing her 85%. Which by the way now, when comparing to her 15% lover, looks like 100%. Hey, just for giggles, when you talk to her, go ahead and ask her "hey, are you bored now"? And regarding your parents. NO WAY. She wants that for one reason. That's the chance that they will apply pressure to you to forgive and forget. She is just trying to manipulate you. Remember her words. "It was just physical" and "I'm bored". Gird yourself for the mascara and snot running, begging your forgiveness. I mean think about the vows you were going to take. After this? How could she stand up in front of family, friends and the world. Hear the words "Forsaking all others, cleave only unto him". How could you even deliver a line like that after this? Stay strong.
Let her say the good bye, your parents were going to be her in-laws and their is a bond....big about it. I think you should allow her to do this without your presence.
However...........warn your parents, it is likely she will try to recruit them to influce you to reconcile. They should hear her out, allow her, her script. Instruct you parent to not commit to anything.
This event will just be a litte pebble in your life.....don't stress it and don't create drama or make it bigger than it has to be.
I know 100% that this is a good thing in the long run, we werent getting what we should have been from the relationship, and anything that could potentially be done to remedy the situation is a short term thing at best.
Of course not. She wanted to have a future husband while being free to have lovers on the side.
She is not marriage material for any man.
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She wants to say goodbye to my parents, bad idea or should I let that happen?
Best not to do that because if your parents had a good relationship with her, this can only bring them pain.
And frankly it reeks of emotional manipulation so that they will feel bad for her and urge you to give her another chance. We've seen a few cases where the parents of the man have turned on him and it has caused permanent damage to the parent/son relationship. So its best to let sleeping dogs lie.
I'm in the no goodbye to your parents camp as well. What is there really to say? What is there to gain? Reeks of emotional manipulation. Don't let her put your parents in the position of having to pick. Posted via Mobile Device
Yeah dude, no goodbye to your parents. Agreed it is part of her plan to put manipulation on your side of the family. Clearly you have displayed to her that you have made up your mind and there's no swaying you, so her next line of attack is lining up your family to try and get to you.
The relationship with her must end for everyone on your side, meaning your whole family. She said goodbye to them when she chose to have some other guy's penis inside her.
Why can't she say good bye to the parents. Are we now saying who our parents can talk to? To me feelings for the Fiancee still exist or there would not even be a reason for posting on a board. I see no problem with cancelling the wedding, too far into the future anyway. Would go into IC and wait about 3 months to make a decision.
Since you can't stop her from talking to your parents if she's dead set on it, I'd recommend that you tell your parents what she was doing and why you ended the relationship. Inform them that she wants to say goodbye to them and that they can decide for themselves if they want to or not.
Maybe if they were married, aeg. And a yeah, that's exactly what we're telling him to do. No contact with the parents. She is doing this for "her" reasons. Whether it is to manipulate them, or just assuage her guilt. Sorry, not in the business of absolution. Tell her to consider Christ.
Since you can't stop her from talking to your parents if she's dead set on it, I'd recommend that you tell your parents what she was doing and why you ended the relationship. Inform them that she wants to say goodbye to them and that they can decide for themselves if they want to or not.
Up until recently your WF was going to be their daughter in law, your parents may need this closure. Be the bigger person and let her and your parents have their good bye. Blocking the good bye as some here advocate is petty and unmanly.....be the bigger person who recognizes that the had a relationship with each other and allow them the opportunity to end it on their terms. Be the adult and maintain your dignity.......and respect your patents right to say good bye to the women who they loved because you loved her.
Look, allowing the good bye will put more knifes in your WF, as she realizes that she is not only losing you but your family......plus maybe your mom will get in a couple of shots as mine would. Posted via Mobile Device
I see no problem with her talking to your parents as long as they are aware ahead of time as to why the engagement has broken. None of this trickle truth " We decided we weren't good for each other."
Your parents need to know what type of person their Previous potential future in daughter in law is.
Allows them to properly understand what she is saying and does not allow her to White Wash Why you decided to end it.
Hey - you know conversely you could always tell her family good bye and at that same time make sure they know the real reason why you canceled the engagement. It's a pretty safe bet that she's minimized her actions to her family and is painting you as a hard ass.
Hey - you know conversely you could always tell her family good bye and at that same time make sure they know the real reason why you canceled the engagement. It's a pretty safe bet that she's minimized her actions to her family and is painting you as a hard ass.
It wouldn't be surprising if she lied to them and told them that it was because you were having an affair. Some women do this you know.
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