After 27 years of marriage, I have discovered my husband is having an affair with a women that has herself filed for divorce from her 4th husband. One of the most disgusting aspects( there are many) of this is to know that the other woman is an elementary school principal. We have a 9 year old elementary school age daughter! No, this women is not my daughters principal. This women is suppose to be a role model and mentor to children that come from all walks of life with various social issues, divorce being one. She has played a part in destroying a family and the thought of that makes me want to throw up! I know I should not get hung up on the moral compass of this woman because it speaks for itself. I just can't shake this feeling of wanting to report her to the state board of education or local school board.
At the hint of an OW sniffing around my man at Christmas time, I told him that if he did not get rid of her pronto, I would expose her professionally, as well as personally, to friends and family. I almost feel sad that I didn't get to do it. Who knows, maybe I will one day, just for sh!ts & giggles.
As i said before "there are many" aspects to this nightmare. @sunnyT I fully blame my husband for destroying our marriage. Not only did he have one affair with the so called educated professional principal there was also the young "skank." Which both affairs were occurring at the same time. Neither one is better than the other but this principal just eats away at my gut. Don't you think I haven't thought about ruining my husband in the process! However, besides our 9 year old daughter, we have two other daughters that are 18 and 21. They are both college students. So, ruining my soon to be ex would be throwing not only myself but my children under the bus. I'm also a homemaker! Even though I have a degree, I've been out of the work force for over fifteen years. I'm not willing to go that far...I'll just take half of everything for as long as the law will allow.
I just know that if I were to find out that my 4th grade daughter's principle was having an affair that helped tear apart a family, I would be trying to move heaven and earth to have this principal removed from the school district. I realize we are all human and mistakes are made but this women knew we were married with an elementary school aged child. She needed to run the other way considering her standing in the community. Obviously, her masters degree didn't teach human decency!!!
I want to be able to move past that issue but it keeps me awake at night. I just find this overwhelmingly appalling that an educator would do such a thing and expect no consequences.
All you need to do--is to go to the supt. of the school district, and report her---School districts here in calif., want nothing to do with scandal, they dump principles based on morals clauses in their teaching/administrative contracts
If the supt. for some reason stalls, or refuses to do anything---then take it to a public, school board meeting, and also go to the media
The principle cannot come after you for any civil tort action, if you have proof, and it is the truth, just tell it like it is, do not embelish, and don't put anything in your story, that is not the truth, and not backed up by evidence.
Before you do anything, you need to figure out what it is you really want. Don't play any cards until you know what you want for an end game. When I found out that my first wife was having multiple affairs, many ages ago, I collected irrefutable evidence. One of her affair partners was married and very prominent. I used that as leverage and negotiated a deal that resulted in my divorce being filed and concluded within 30 days. I would have gotten great satisfaction if I had exposed, but I would have had a messy and prolonged divorce and a judge would have made decisions for me rather than ratifying a negotiated agreement which I thought was favorable to me. And yes, I kept my end of the agreement and did not disclose. Posted via Mobile Device