..if I start moving money, wouldn't that lead to bigger problems down the road? or should i move half? i don't want to jump the gun on anything that could get me in trouble....
Yes don`t take more than half but you do want to take that half because she very well might take it all.
she is very remorseful - very confused - very unsure of herself.
like i said in the OP, she just doesn't know who she is anymore. But I do know this for certain - i gave her the option to choose me - the option to work on it together - the option to lean on me for support - and she still left. So that just confirms it for me.
My friend she`s not remorseful.
Tears and words do not equate to remorse.
Here`s the best advice you can be given right now...
She`s saying one thing and doing another.
Completely ignore her words focus like a laser on her actions and you`ll know where her head is at all times.
I already told her before she left what it would take to come back to me. I said we will do the NC letter. You will give me all of your passwords and accounts. The problem is - "OM knows me better, and I wouldn't be here without his support" ("talked me off the ledge")- I am still holding to my gun here tho- any contact and it is sealed.
She`s with him right now.
You think I`d wager that college fund lightly?
Why do you think her first response was "I`m calling him right now"?
She wouldn`t be here without HIS support?
"He knows her better"?
You`re her husband, what are you chopped liver?
She`s dissing you and protecting him.
This is not the action of a remorseful woman.
This is the action of a selfish wayward lost in the fog.
Someone get confused a link to "The Fog" thread.
Protect the money
Divorce papers ASAP
In that order and focus on nothing else until these goals are met and meet them fast because you can be sure she will herself once the OM starts guiding her fogged mind and he`s doing that right now this minute.
Let her go.
Don`t forget to keep those testicles checked, I`m serious you need to be John ****ing Wayne for the foreseeable future.