When you 1st slept with the ow/om
did you ever once compare them in your mind to your mate back home.
I read from different sites that when a person cheats on their mate they have this vision in their mind how the sex would be but in reality the sex wasn't that great with the ow or om..
Me personally i know every inch of my hubbys body.
I can't even bring myself to even think of being with another man.
If i ever had an affair i would be afraid if it wasnt what i thought i would speak my mind.
I remember when i 1st slept with my hubby how i wasnt pleased at all.he was so green,plain..but in the back of my mind i was comparing him to my ex and thinking''wow ***** does it this way & yadda yadda..
So i was just wondering if others have felt or thought this as well..
Becuz when your with someone for a long time you mold yourself to them.
Dan thank you..your awesome.
I admire honesty..the 1st ow my hubby cheated with told me exactly the same issue he had with her..i thought she was lying to me so i wouldnt be hurt.
I never had that issue at all with him.so when she told me that i really thought she was crazy.
I also was unable to get hard initially. I should have run screaming from the OW then. My heart was telling me it was so wrong and I didn't listen. I don't know to this day why... My life is filled every minute with regret. I am sick thinking about hurting my wife that way. I was so stupid and insensitive.
I know most people want to read how awful it was but it wasn't. And I attribute that because it was an EA too. Afterwards I felt horrible because I knew what I had done. In the moment though, it was nice. Still, one of my single biggest regrets in life.
My time with the OW was amazing. They never complained of getting sore midway. They liked that I took control and put them in varius positions, never complained that those positions hurt, they were very in tune with their bodies, they liked how long I took to O and was focused on getting them there before myself. All of these things, especially after the first time, made me want to pursue others to see if it was me as my wife would say. She would say the way I had sex was not the norm, but when I saw how several other women responded to it, I realized I was not the problem. So then I stopped. The verdict was reached. However, it was funny. When my wife cheated, before we got married, she slept with an ex, with whom she said the sex was bad with, and he was inadequate, however, carried on the affair for a year. Explain that, she hasn't not been able to to this day.