Re: Long Term Affairs (LTA)
Just my opinion:
I would think in general 8-9 months would be a long term affair. The nature of the affair might make it longer or shorter. I think if someone is in a full on PA for 4-5 months, that would be long term. If it's more of a light EA - then a year.
In my wife's EA, she couldn't even pinpoint when it started. On May 4th I caught an email sent on April 23rd, only 2 weeks prior. But they were platonic friends for 20 years. I asked her how long she felt this way, and she said, "It was so gradual - maybe winter?" When I checked the phone records, they didn't speak even once between January and April 15th, so maybe in her head her feelings had been changing for awhile, but nothing was professed until just 2-3 weeks before I caught it. So it's really hard to say.
Bottom line is that it depends on the nature of the A. We know this girl (who we are no longer on speaking terms with) who has been in a 10 year affair. THAT's long term.