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post #46 of 85 (permalink) Old 02-04-2012, 11:45 PM
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From what you've said I definitely think they are having sex. Why do you think they are hiding it?

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You seem to forget that if she has another affair with a man who is willing to support her, she might choose to divorce you. What I'm trying to say is that you should have a contingency divorce plan to mitigate any financial hardships just in case.

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I think if sex was still involved, I'd buy it. I have observed some of their communication and know that there is no such discussion, nor words of love.
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I think if sex was still involved, I'd buy it. I have observed some of their communication and know that there is no such discussion, nor words of love.
Well I guess I missed the point of this thread. What exactly are you looking for help with?

What is the nature and how seious is her depression?
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I think if sex was still involved, I'd buy it. I have observed some of their communication and know that there is no such discussion, nor words of love.
The emotional affects of an affair are often more damaging to a marriage then the sexual.

They were sexually involved. YOu are ok with her being emotionally involved as well?
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She has played for a total fool. If the roles were reversed I doubt that she would be so accepting as you have been. How nice that she made sure she screwed a good friend of yours on top of that. Her actions show that she has no respect for you whatsoever. Good God man, if you do not respect yourself then who will?
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First STOP calling him BEST FRIEND,he is not a friend damn...he is a POS...

There must be NC between the OM and your WW...and please start acting like a person that respects himself...

And don't forget to expose the affair to OMW,and if your wife doesn't want to stop contacting him then expose to everyone and file for divorce...

If you are not a troll then you are the biggest cuckold that I have seen in a long time...geez,man up already !!!

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We are wasting our time trying to make him to understand the condition of his marriage and cheating of his wife, he wont because he know what he is, A man without a trace of self respect, dignity and courage. we cant fill him with these qualities. He is not a blind not to see the reality he is facing, but he dont want to open his eye and see the reality, it will make him nervous. so he want to keep his eyes shut. What ever we says its falling on duff ears.

But as all others in this forum I too feel that he have some options

1. Pack your bag, say, on your mark, ready one two three and start running, dont look back, (if you look back or inform her she will cry for loosing her cuckold, doormat husband, so she will try to stop you saying she love you, she will cry and beg to stay with her, because she know its not easy to find a cuckold husband like you)Run to other country, if border police try to stop you tell them you are running away from your wife, they wont stop you, they are also human.

2. Learn violin: when they fu*k on your bed, play the violin loudly, make him to fu*k (play) according to your tune (now you become a player). Dont stop let him/her bleed and die.

3. Compete with her in "who brings STD first to home" bang every cheap who*re available in your state/country. as you have failed in all other deptments, you should win at least in this. fill your home with moans of *****s and make it impossible to her to bear any more and kick you out of the house. if she bring one man you should bring two *****s, if she 2 then you 3 make the competition tough for her. Ask her to pay for this Whor*s.

4. Broke the Di*k of her OM. (I know you don't have the guts for this, they too know that) make them Fu*k impossible. Expose the affair to the world and divorce her ( I know you don't have guts for this, still this is an option)

5.Remain like this for ever ( I know you like this one very much). Be her doormat and cuckold for ever. let she bang others and you run with a towel behind her.

I am not writing this to hurt you, from thousands of mile away i can feel your pain, because I am a human being, but, if a person living with you cannot understand your pain, then what a pathetic life you are living man.


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I think if sex was still involved, I'd buy it. I have observed some of their communication and know that there is no such discussion, nor words of love.
Look there is no way he is having secret meetings with her etc if there is no sex involved.

They don't talk about it where you can hear because their sex relationship is now a integrated part of their time together. They no longer need to discuss it.

Are you still having sex with her? Does she withhold it from you before she goes to see him - or after ward?

For heavens sake stop being a beta and take control here. Another man, someone who claimed falsely to being your friend, is openly mocking your relationship with your life. He is showing you in your face that he has more pull and control over her than you do.

He and she are openly saying they she chooses HIM over you.

He does it without any fear and with consequence - because he knows that you are too affraid to stand up to him or her.

Come on - she slept with HIM. she continues to see him secretly. And you are still afraid to kick her out, and still afraid to tell the OMW.

At this point I can't image either one of them have any respect for you at all. You've taught them, they can do whatever they want and you won't do a thing about it.

Is that the man you see yourself as? Is that the man you want your kids seeing? they won't respect that man.
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Why are you even still in this relationship?You obviously don't matter to either of them.

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If you're hoping that your cheating wife will have an epiphany that will wake her up, realize the destruction she's caused, and show you true remorse, without you lifting a finger then you are in a very thick fog of your own.

Some of the comments you received are indeed harsh but nevertheless true. No woman respects a man who allows himself to be disrespected, and your wife is no exception.

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The authenticity of this thread has me somewhat confused!
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your worried about her too much, and not enough about yourself. your getting the real short end of the stick here man. buck up and take charge.
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I don't understand the debate over whether you agreed to an o9pen marriage or not with her. The fact is, she fvcked your best friend behind your back and told you about it and they continue hanging out all the time and lying about it.

That is the main issue. The fact is she is having an affair in front of your face and you are more concerned over whether she and you had one specific conversation or not. That is ludicrous.

Bottom line is: your wife does not respect you.

So either you can choose to tolerate a marriage where your wife had zero regard for your feelings on her active affair or you can actually do something about it.

Why you have not told this man's wife is baffling to me. Do it today. Yesterday. "OM's wife: OM has fvcked my wife and they are having an affair--my wife admitted they slept together. I think you have a right to know this."

Call her up and tell her. Don't tell your wife or OM beforehand.

This story is so...sad.
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If you're hoping that your cheating wife will have an epiphany that will wake her up, realize the destruction she's caused, and show you true remorse, without you lifting a finger then you are in a very thick fog of your own.

Some of the comments you received are indeed harsh but nevertheless true. No woman respects a man who allows himself to be disrespected, and your wife is no exception.
You're right Mori. He is in the BS fog. I only hope it lifts before it's too late...unless it's too late already.
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