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post #76 of 85 (permalink) Old 02-08-2012, 12:03 PM
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violence will get you in jail folks, ain't worth it


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violence will get you in jail folks, ain't worth it
Agreed, there's other ways to screw with them without getting physical. NO woman is worth going to jail over. In fact, that's probably where she would want you at. You chilling your heels out in a jail cell, while she has the OM in the martial bed warming her up and not a worry in the world of you coming home.
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Agreed, there's other ways to screw with them without getting physical. NO woman is worth going to jail over. In fact, that's probably where she would want you at. You chilling your heels out in a jail cell, while she has the OM in the martial bed warming her up and not a worry in the world of you coming home.
OUCH!!.. what happened to our primal selves.. where you beat the offending guy senseless and people in the community were on your side? Telling him that's what he gets for messing with a married woman.. I mean I guess if you want to screw with him, just make him a project and devote an hour a day to figuring out how to screw him over.. I'm sure you will come up with something.. Call his wife, hell try and bang her after you tell her.. IDK.. I guess the only one I really would want to have hurt feelings my partner.. the other dude was just doing what dudes do.. and according to guy code should expect to get his head caved in for messing with the wife of somebody else..
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OUCH!!.. what happened to our primal selves.. where you beat the offending guy senseless and people in the community were on your side? Telling him that's what he gets for messing with a married woman.. I mean I guess if you want to screw with him, just make him a project and devote an hour a day to figuring out how to screw him over.. I'm sure you will come up with something.. Call his wife, hell try and bang her after you tell her.. IDK.. I guess the only one I really would want to have hurt feelings my partner.. the other dude was just doing what dudes do.. and according to guy code should expect to get his head caved in for messing with the wife of somebody else..
I get what you're saying and believe me, I would want to cave this guy's head in too. But, welcome to the 21st Century! Where everyone sues everyone else!!!

Thing is, brusies heal quickly. Alienation of Affection lawsuits last a lot longer. Or intentional cause of emotional damage lawsuits causes bigger headaches...or getting the guy to lose his job for screwing my wife on company time causes a lot of undo stress in this economy. Or having HIS wife screw him over in a divorce especially of they live in an at fault state. Priceless... THOSE hurt more.
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The guy gets totally blindsided by his wife who screws some other guy and he sits there taking it in the chin and doing nothing about it because he's scared to lose her. Even though he already has.

It's hard for people who read stories such as this to fathom how one person can allow themselves to be treated like a doormat by someone who has exchanged vows and all that other crap.

It's all about fear, lack of self esteem, low confidence, etc. It's a sad, pathetic testimonial to all the losers out there who let others run all over them.

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I've cut off my relationship with him entirely. The last time I saw him, he tried shaking my hand, and glared at him and looked at his hand like it was a dead fish.
Wow you're a tough guy aren't you. The guy is screwing your wife, mocking you, and all you do is look at his hand and acting all mad. Grow a set. Tell him to stay the hell away from your wife, and then go get yourself a divorce attorney and get that cheating loser out of your life once and for all. Or sit there and be a doormat, it's your call.

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I'm more than a little disappointed in the name-calling...
This comment is just so ridiculous given the circumstances, it makes me almost certain this whole thing is a troll but like I said even if it is, these types of threads are unfortunately quite common and real, more often than not.
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The guy gets totally blindsided by his wife who screws some other guy and he sits there taking it in the chin and doing nothing about it because he's scared to lose her. Even though he already has.

It's hard for people who read stories such as this to fathom how one person can allow themselves to be treated like a doormat by someone who has exchanged vows and all that other crap.

It's all about fear, lack of self esteem, low confidence, etc. It's a sad, pathetic testimonial to all the losers out there who let others run all over them.
Is what it is, it's a matter of the heart; a place where rational thought typically does not apply.. As for your labeling all of us that are caught up in the storm of our partners infidelity as 'Losers'; I find that to be ridiculous. People handle hurt in different ways, to each their own.. maybe they have hope, or feel they were to blame in some way. Regardless it's a cycle that must be worked through and most of us are at different stages in that cycle. That being said I would not label anybody who has been a victim of a cheater as a loser (provided they didnt overtly cause it, beating, being a drunk etc). As for the first couple sentences of your rant, that would probably apply to me and my situation. I consider myself to be hurt, probably in denial about depression and a whole range of other emotions that accompany this type of betrayal, but a loser I am not. Basically the comment was more cutting, and insulting than helpful..

Not everyone here can cut years worth of emotion in seconds and walk away from everything they think they know in minutes..
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Old thread, zombie zombie ...............
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Well no not in seconds of course but some people can't do it for YEARS.



They just sit there in misery afraid to make a positive change in their lives.


Welcome back. Did you just get out of jail?
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Well no not in seconds of course but some people can't do it for YEARS.

They just sit there in misery afraid to make a positive change in their lives.
Haven't seen you around in a while. You back for good or just browsing around?

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Haven't seen you around in a while. You back for good or just browsing around?


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