Re: The cheater feels worse than the cheated... Discuss!
What I want to know is, why does my wife still get upset when I try to talk to her about her cheating. Yes, it was 8 years ago, but she was a total B afterward, for years. I cheated after I found out about hers, but I didn't feel bad because I felt justified in my actions. I regret it, but don't feel bad at all. She says she is remorseful for what she has done, and punishes herself everyday for ruining the relationship, because her actions changed me. But when I try to get her to talk, about both of our transgressions, she gets upset when it gets to her. I have no problem talking about what I did. I explained to her that it was all reactions to what she did and how she acted after. I guess she gets upset because she doesn't have a reason, as she cheated within our first year of dating when things were pretty much perfect.