Re: Adultry and Military Punishment
And when spousal rape and other acts of sexual non-consent occur, the prosecutor's office can't always prosecute the crime either. It's all about evidence and damages. Adultery works out better if there's a child or std involved that's traceable by dna. Even video or audio can be forged nowadays, or claimed to be set up.
Basically, your best option is to keep your money from the attorneys.
And save your paperwork for the divorce, or for the truly hopeful, counseling (preferably individual, for yourself). Military counseling is also quite a letdown. It's geared towards getting people in a state where they can do their job. Anything more than that needs to be taken care of by the military member on their own time. Still, filing a complaint with a prosecutor's office and letting the CO know with a courtesy call that there might be trouble down the line, is a great way of putting pressure on your Sweetie who is wandering and toeing the line. If nothing else, it buys you time to get your act together while your Hero is scrambling to make his boss happy and avoid making the unit look like scre*ups who have so much free time that they don't know what to do with it except play with their other 'gun'.