My wife showed me a text she recieved today on her work phone. It was blank but was a new number from the community that the OM lives. He would have had to get a new cell number because he quit his job and they had been communicating through thier work cells during the affair. We did not know for sure it was him so my fWW'd boss phoned the numbered and told us he got the OM's voicemail. I wasn't sure if I should call or not. Triggered me bad when we were discussing it so I wasn't ready to deal with it. Now we know it's him what should we do. We sent the NC letter and my fWW swears she never broke it. What should I do? Posted via Mobile Device
I swear to anything ever that I did not break NC. All I said to my boss was, "do u recognize this #######? ". He said no, do u want me to call it? Yes. Then he said, it is Him. I got his vm.
My boss then offered to Phn him & tell him to stay out of our lives. He is no longer with company & wud have no reason to contact our office or me. I told him I wud tell Dinger that offer & let him know.
I'm not sure what the best plan is. Dinger Phn & tell him to go fly a kite & get F-ed? Or completely ignore it & let it eat OM that we r better than him to not acknowledge it.
It infuriates me. I just want to start rebuilding my marriage & stop hurting my H. Things like this out of my control are hard to handle. Posted via Mobile Device
I emailed his wife. I have no idea if they are still together after the affair but I have her info from that time. I also threw in a couple tidbits that I have since learned about the affair. He could easily lie about a blank text but he'll feel the stung from this new info. Posted via Mobile Device
I wish getting a new number was easier but it isn't. I have 694 clients I deal with yearly, probably 200ish on a weekly basis as well as a very large geographic area so changing my number wud be a nightmare for trying to redirect calls from the admin desk & redistribute my new number while maintaining my business. Contact info is easily obtained from our company website, toll free line or even in published literature. If he wanted my new number he šud get it in a heartbeat. BUT I will continue complete transparency, dinger has told his w & all we can do is move forward ensuring our focus is us. Posted via Mobile Device