Eli-Zor

I agree it will have been a lot longer, typically a wayward will try make contact when they get the first opportunity. In your case sometime next week when your at work , expect this, make sure the keylogger is working. I would be surprised if she does not at least try. If she suspects your tracking the laptop she may go to a friend to use their equipment or if she has a iPhone or such like with Internet access.

Whatever you do don't get paranoid and look for things that are not there as it adds to your pain. Today you know she was engaged in a long distance EA , you caught her , you can forecast her next steps . You have a plan to follow, part of that is to be less of a giver , get her out to work and balance the household tasks.
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Heats of oak

Thank you..I am at work now..work almost everyday..so she has time to do what she pleases on the pc..

Shaggy

Do you have a VAR in place at home to hear what she is saying on the phone or Skype?
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Heats of oak

No..we don't..I think that the keylogger I installed will capture all voice comms..she did ask me this morning (as I left for work) if I was going to work now..and that I should have a good day..

Eli-Zor

The var is a must have tool
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Shaggy

Are you sure the keylogger captures voice? Many just take pictures of the screen or record the keys pressed.
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Shaggy

Get a var for home.
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Heats of oak

Last night I had a couple of beers and she mentioned that I would be all lovey dovey in the morning and that I would regret..have not done anything like that..have not ignored, but have not showed her the affection that she would normally expect after a tiff and she looks very solem and upset..has not been near the laptop as much as she would do normally..

Heats of oak

I think it just captures images and key strokes..just had another look at it..

Heats of oak

Just checked the keylogger and bingo! she had sent this OM another email telling him that I had sent an email to him telling him to stay away and that he should ignore at and not to reply to it and to not reply the email she was sending either..is she guilty?...I confronted her about it (I know) and true to from denied any wrong doing and that she does not see why she had to leave communications with him as he is just a friend. She claimed if I loved her I would believe her..she flipped again..told her that was that and to make arrangements to leave..I have contacted solicitors and asked for a meeting as the kids will end up in South America...I am screwed!!

Heats of oak

Eli-Zor

Firstly your not screwed. You ensure the children's passports are secured and if you are concerned she will up and leave with the children you engage a lawyer pronto and have him legally prevent their travel if that means you file for formal seperation you do so.


Next you contact her parents and tell them you are seeking support in saving your marriage as your wife is in an affair with OM , name him.

If you have access to his Facebook page read the newbie thread and follow the exposure advice therein.

At this moment be calm , your wife's reaction is expected. Avoid relationship talk do not make big decisions now unless your wife is going to leave , if she does it is without the children.
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Heats of oak

So she was again telling me lies?..after telling me she would contact him again..I love her dearly and want to work this out. She is far away from home and loves to gossip, she has other male friends and does not have nor has ever requested exchange skype details..I am really trying to understand her point too...but it is hard if she is lying to me..

Eli-Zor

There is nothing to understand , waywards don't think of the harm they are causing. A spouse behaving normally would not have a second thought and would drop the friend. Your wife is behaving exactly to the affair script. Get your thoughts down , call her family and let them know, be clear she is hiding and lying out the contact and you are seeking their help in supporting your marriage.

Any normal person can see this is impacting your marriage.
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Stonewall

I am a huge advocate of total transparency. My wife has total access to all my stuff and I hers. It breeds trust and allays fears.