slightly confused; is it wrong that my wife wanted to communicate with another man, even though he is a few thousand miles away and is an old friend from 30yrs ago..she left her skype account open a few days back and I noticed that she had a friendship acceptance form this chap, which then prompted me to investigate further, I did the wrong thing and checked her email the next day and saw that she had sent this contact an email informing him that I ad seen the request and it would better to wait for things to calm down before they speak..and if there was anything further he should contact her via her "other" facebook account, she denies having another account and said that it was his..but she can't make a simple mistake with the verb to be being a teacher!
First off, you didn't do the "wrong thing". You trusted your gut, and it was right. She is up to no good.
Second, it is not unacceptable to want to have a friendship, online or otherwise, with the opposite sex. As long as it is just friends with no romantic interests. But its clear there is more to it than that.
Anyway we argued and heatedly discussed this, she failed to see that she had done wrong or was about to do wrong, she was never going to tell me she was communicating with this guy when I asked her about it as she says "I am jealous of all her male friends"
Jealousy is an irrational emotion based on not liking a significant other conversing with the opposite sex thinking romantic feelings will arise, when they won't.
Therefore, because she is clearly up to something, you aren't jealous, but justifiably upset and concerned.
She is giving you a reason to not like her "friendships" with other men.
We are however making headway, I have promised to stop being nosey and leave her email account alone
Just how cheaters like it. You wouldn't have been nosey if she hadn't have been doing things she shouldn't have been doing, like having another FB account she lied to you about so she can have backdoor access to other guys so you won't find out.
she has come out of her shell a tad more and is not spending 3hrs on facebook
And I bet you its eating her alive.
She also says that she concerned about my lack of trust and that she feels she needs "privacy" and that my jealousy and checking emails has "freaked her out!"
Oh she's good. She is real good.
Ask her what she needs privacy for when conversing with other men.
I know I have my issues and am dealing with them, but I think something is not quite right..pls comment!!!
You are right. Something isn't quite right. Its your wife. She wants her privacy so she can get her validation fix with other men, whether online or otherwise.
I don't know what to tell you other than you are in for a rocky road with this woman. She respects nada.