Infidelity or just innocent
slightly confused; is it wrong that my wife wanted to communicate with another man, even though he is a few thousand miles away and is an old friend from 30yrs ago..she left her skype account open a few days back and I noticed that she had a friendship acceptance form this chap, which then prompted me to investigate further, I did the wrong thing and checked her email the next day and saw that she had sent this contact an email informing him that I ad seen the request and it would better to wait for things to calm down before they speak..and if there was anything further he should contact her via her "other" facebook account, she denies having another account and said that it was his..but she can't make a simple mistake with the verb to be being a teacher!
Anyway we argued and heatedly discussed this, she failed to see that she had done wrong or was about to do wrong, she was never going to tell me she was communicating with this guy when I asked her about it as she says "I am jealous of all her male friends" not true..she has other male friends but she does not contact "them" via skype...my issue is not the fact she has male friends, but the way in which she was due to communicate with this particular guy is what negged me out a bit..I removed skype but later re-installed it as she does need to communicate with her family as they are all in Latin America and we have kids together and I really want to make this work for them, well of course my wife and I too.
We are however making headway, I have promised to stop being nosey and leave her email account alone, she has come out of her shell a tad more and is not spending 3hrs on facebook..although I now sleep with "one eye open" she has re-contacted this guy as I said that I could keep her from talking to anybody and I would want to, but I have made it clear that she will not be communicating through skype with this guy. She also says that she concerned about my lack of trust and that she feels she needs "privacy" and that my jealousy and checking emails has "freaked her out!" I know I have my issues and am dealing with them, but I think something is not quite right..pls comment!!!